The girl of my dreams left me for another man. Her personality is outgoing and I am uptight and serious. She left me for a guy who is the life of the party and bar hops. The exact opposite of who I am. Her Myspace page is flooded with pics of her and her new "fling". I am doing what I can to move on. The overall effect is it is a huge blow to my pride. I dont drink, party, or even go to the bar. She does, she is extremely outgoing, and she is already seeing someone only days after ending a 4 year relationship. Am i wrong for being who I am? I can understand her wanting to experience new things, but does this mean I should change who I am? I feel like there is something wrong with me. While she is out having a great time, I am at home depressed. I just don't have that personality. Is there something I am missing?
2006-10-30 18:09:15 · 10 answers · asked by masksqueeze2 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Yeah, it seems that the only way out for her was the path she has chosen. It's sad to see her do this, but I am working on my dignity from here on out. As much as I love her and miss her, I can't let her actions impact my life any longer. Thanks for the input guys!
2006-10-30 18:40:21 · update #1
I think both of you are incompatible to each other. It is good that she left you. No girl is worth keeping your face for too long a period. Just brush aside the memory and look forward meeting other opportunities in life.
2006-10-30 18:28:18 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you think that something is wrong with you just because a girl left you for someone else and is having a ball of a time now, you seriously need to develop some self-esteem.
There are tonnes of girls out there... but depending on distance you are willing to travel, there are approximately 500 - 1000 girls any one guy can choose from in their vicinity and slightly more guys any one girl can choose from.
If you are going to get all upset, you'd better start drinking, afterall, its really no point bashing yourself up, might as well let alcohol do the work.
If you still want to find that one girl, you better get out of the house and start socializing and meeting people.
Its your choice what you want to do. Be lonely and miserable or find a special someone, its your choice. I've already led you to the lake, whether you want to drink or not, its your choice.
2006-10-30 18:34:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
u dont have to change n theres nothing wrong for being u...
only that from what u told, u two r totally contrast on personality...sometimes it did effect the r/ship...
u said that u r a serious n uptight kinda person..how serious/uptight ???
sometimes we do need some foolishness n laughter in life..
anyhoo,rather than being depressed n thinking about her, y dont u hv a good time with ur buddy or something...go out, hv some fun...it doesnt necassirily u partying the whole nite but dont just sit alone at home,surfing her myspace page, it only making u feel worse...
do what u like, hv fun,meet some girls..
move on..
2006-10-30 18:18:23 · answer #3 · answered by fallforniky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
STOP BASHING YOURSELF
You are a great person, just because she wasn't the woman for you doesn't mean you wont find the woman for you.
You are missing nothing except your next opportunity at love :-0
Jump off that sad horse and move on to the next young pony.
I cant say it will be easy-break ups never are
Everybody deals with them differently-she needed 4 days you may need 4 weeks or 4 months but find a new hobby to kill the time but don't expect it to fulfill you because hobbies rarely do especially when they are done because you don't have a companion
God Bless
2006-10-30 18:14:27 · answer #4 · answered by msijg 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry, she's just not for you. I am pretty much like you also, uptight and serious, no party-guy, and I am in a relationship with a nice lady which is more or less like me (even though she liked party a lil bit), understands me the way I am. Its good that she left you now, not after you get married.
2006-10-30 18:13:34 · answer #5 · answered by Whatta 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People change over time. There is nothing wrong with who you are but it sounds like she became a heartless bi*ch. Move on and be glad you were not married with kids when she did this. You got off lucky. There are lots of girls who would prefer a guy who doesn't party and play around. Good Luck!
2006-10-30 18:31:45 · answer #6 · answered by Jim V 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love someone let her go and you move on. No point hanging on for someone who doesn't have any feelings for you anymore.
2006-10-30 19:20:52 · answer #7 · answered by teddytrin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry. you guys didn't just click because you were basically the opposite of her. don't change your personality though. somebody else probably likes you who has the same personality.
2006-10-30 18:12:01 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you don't fit into each others lifestyles, move on and good luck.
2006-10-30 18:37:06 · answer #9 · answered by Thomas C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your missing a backbone,get one and move on.
2006-10-30 18:11:50 · answer #10 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋