its a 3 yrs relationship. i met him real last year now he is back to his place . yesterday My boy friend was chatting with me while chattinghe told me like this " if u talk to another guy do u think i am going to fight. no never because Once i was thinking u r a butyqueen now i understand u r not if some one say they like u i was thinking about that poor guy to be how ugly".................... so he doesnt loves me ?
2006-10-30 18:03:50 · 27 answers · asked by ann m 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Sounds like he's trying to put u down to make himself feel better about his own insecurity. I say lose him and find someone who's mature enough not to play mind games.
2006-10-30 18:15:12 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
first and foremost i am sorry to hear the words he spoke to you and insulted you. second, if a guy loves a girl he will take her for the whole package and not just the materialistic stuff! my bf and i for example have been going through some rough times yet he never called me anything than approriate and sweet names and was rather supportive. third, this guy sounds as though all he cares about is looks and nothing else, is arrogant, has no manners or resprect for that matter. fourth, think if this is a healthy relationship and if you think it is then stay in it but to me it sounds all unhealthy and if i were you i would so get out. fifth, think if this is the way you should be treated or do you want some one else who can actually show you respect, affection and make you feel good about yourself vs.making your self esteem fall? sixth, are you happy with this guy or could you be happier? do you guys have more bad times than good or more good times than bad? think about that! if the answer is more bad: dump him, and if the answer id more good times: still dump him! no guy, no matter who the hell they are have a right to talk to a girl like this,or rather to put her down and make her feel unpretty! what he is doing sounds like involuntary mental abuse in the sense that he is putting you down not saying a nice thing about you and is making you question and lose yourself! my best advice is to end the relationship because of all the things i have listed so far. do it for yourself and save yourself some time with this jerk and find a nice guy who actually respects and appreciates you! best of luck and i hope the advice helped! plus he does not love you or otherwise he would of showed it in a nice way and he knows that you can get any guy you want therefore it makes him insecure and jealous!
2006-10-30 18:16:29 · answer #2 · answered by icycrissy27blue 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's just the opposite...insecure guys tell the girlfriends that they are ugly so that they won't leave them. He is a jerk and you should have enough self esteem to see that and leave him. If he is so great, do you honestly think that he would still be with a girl that is 'ugly'? Heck NO! He's afraid that someone else will steal you away from him because you are a beautyqueen. Dump him now and don't waste another minute of your precious time.
2006-10-30 18:15:49 · answer #3 · answered by belleebuttons 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dear, from what you've typed as HIS response to your chat, it seems he's telling you this because he is insecure. You must understand that insecure people try (and sometimes suceed if the person they assault are a little insecure themselves) to bring down others to make themselves feel better about themselves.
There just is NO other reason for what he is saying to you. You most certainly have NOT become ugly over night on only under a certain condition!!!! That's just silly. He's beign stupid....I'm sorry to say.............and MEAN. I dare say.........a BASTARD! Don't even consider him a boyfriend anymore.
2006-10-30 18:13:48 · answer #4 · answered by miss_princess_goddess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Both of your chatted on the net. He met you for real and your served his purpose. He never loved you. He must be doing this to other girls too. He is not worth loving because he is a cheat. As Chunlee suggested, dump him. Be careful in the future.
Like a serial killer, he appears to be a "serial womaniser". Lodge a complaint with the police and inform him too.
2006-10-30 18:18:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Tell him hat the guys who talk to u dont thnk u r ugly..so u would better be with some 1 who doesnt think u r ugly. He can find himself a beauty for all he s worth of.
HE is clearly jealous.
2006-10-30 18:12:23 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your better than that! You need to tell him it's over and go on with your life. You will eventually meet a guy that thinks your the only beauty in his life. I don't believe a guy should have to fight over a girl unless someone is disrespecting you. If someone has to fight for you then it ain't worth the time! MOVE ON!
2006-10-30 18:08:43 · answer #7 · answered by jme 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
ur bf is really mean... but u know what? he is just so insecure bec he knows u can get any guy and he has to pull u down with him. the most logical thing to do ARE:
1. dont even get hurt by his insecure comment. be thankful ur just a victim of someone's insecurity and its not u who is insecure.. AND...
2. prove to him ur a beauty queen after all bec u r GONNA GET A NEW MAN, alright!
beauty comes from within.. a woman of beauty is a woman of confidence.. go out into the world and prove urself beautiful!
man like ur bf is such a waste of time.. trust me.. u will find out....
2006-10-30 18:08:17 · answer #8 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
be your self . if he gets his kicks making you fell low . honey , he will only use you and bring you down. the outer shell of a person is just that . the outter person . if he can't see the beauty you posess. thats his losse . don't fret . life goes on and there is someone out there that is interested in you for who you are and what you know . sounds like he was using you for a peice of meat .
2006-10-30 18:09:58 · answer #9 · answered by single-rose@sbcglobal.net 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
what you should do leave him because he does not respect you you did not creat yourself so you just feel proud of yourself and contiue to love yourself he does not deserve you so you will find someone better than him?so be cool and everything will be okay.his a jeauoly person if he dont they some people who love you mostly your family and friend.so you can do better than that.all the best
2006-10-30 18:14:58 · answer #10 · answered by mima t 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋