I've been dating this girl who was separated and we were having the greatest sex. She is finally divorced and now she doesn't want to have sex anymore. We kiss and are intimate but she doesn't want to have sex. I asked her why and she said she doesn't want to get into the same "cycle". What does this mean?
2006-10-30 18:03:46 · 23 answers · asked by X 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It means you are having the same effect on her that her ex did in the beginning, and that she's terribly afraid of an 'instant replay'...your behavior and her responses are reminding her of past events, so either be incredibly patient(not wise) or wean yourself off her and go find a woman with(lots!) less baggage!
2006-10-30 18:09:12 · answer #1 · answered by wetdreamdiver 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It probably means that she's thinking more carefully about her future and doesn't want to make the same mistakes again. She's probably backing away from getting involved again until she figures out the next move in her life.
For future reference, you should probably steer clear of married women (and, yes...separated women are still MARRIED). The best of relationships have issues when both partners are single; engaging with someone when you are ending a marriage is just creating more baggage and drama. Neither of you need it.
2006-10-30 18:30:20 · answer #2 · answered by Le_Roche 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Brian, wetdreams and sweet_princess have the asnwers for you...
i think the idea of sleeping with u fascinates her at the moment as a revenge to her soon to be ex husband.. now that she got what she was waiting for (divorce) she realized she was kind of at a losing end and got depressed and so didnt want to have sex for a while.
give her space and let her fix her head. she will let u know when she is ready ...... also, i think between u and her, there is no promise of love or anything. just all fun... so i think she is so depressed of the divorce and wants to get the best out of it and that is, find someone whom she can get serious with and be married again....
2006-10-30 18:14:55 · answer #3 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The sex was only exciting for her while she was going through the divorce. Now she wants to calm down and get her head on straight. Give her some room. If she wants you, she will let you know.
2006-10-30 18:08:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
It means don't let the screen door hit you on your way out!
It means hit the road Jack!
It means thanks for the memories.
It means here today gone tomorrow.
It means wake up and smell the coffee.
It means that you were the bandaid and now you're just old and smelly.
It means that next time you won't sleep with someones wife (separated is not divorced).
2006-10-30 18:27:43 · answer #5 · answered by OU812 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cycle??? Cycle of having great sex??? Okay...........that could mean she had great sex w her husband and she has now learned that she can be HEAVILY persuaded to stay in a crappy relationship for the sex.........but never wants to be in that position/cycle again.
Poor lady. She needs to get help so that she can both have great sex AND have faith in herself to get out if the sex remains great while other stuff goes to sh**.
2006-10-30 18:09:23 · answer #6 · answered by miss_princess_goddess 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she have her period are she probably in a bad mood you should ask her what bothering her. It also could be the divorce thing talk to her about that that could be one of those reason. If she say she needs some space give it to her.
2006-10-30 18:17:09 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make issues undemanding on your self and in basic terms be straightforward such as her. Ask her what she needs out of a relationship with you, and ask he if she would want to be intimate with you. imagine of it this type: in case you do not even experience gentle adequate to be open and mature with this woman about your emotions, needs, and concerns about your inexperience, what makes you imagine the sex will be gentle and pleasant? that is continually suitable to ask. also, you don't want to finally end up contained in the gruesome difficulty of touching a lady who's in basic terms permitting it because she is afraid to make a fuss. If she does want to sleep with you, marvelous. make certain it use contraception. Get condoms! also understand that sex doesn't ought to easily contain finished on sex to be pleasant and functional. it isn't the be-all end-all of sex. sex doesn't ought to end even as the guy ejaculates, both. the in basic terms end objective of sex is to substantiate both companions experience fulfilled.
2016-12-05 09:38:51 · answer #8 · answered by mento 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The thrill is gone. Before... you were forbidden fruit and she felt like she was getting away with something. That was the turn on for her. But now that everything's over... yawn, same ol' same ol'.
Time for you to move on dude. Let some other sucker "cuddle" with her.
2006-10-30 18:13:57 · answer #9 · answered by Larry F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It means she is single and free...time to play the field. Be a sport & call it a good game.
2006-10-30 18:20:07 · answer #10 · answered by T-Bone 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋