I'm the kind of person who is not dramatic and is pretty friendly. Its like I make friends easily but cant keep them. Old friends of mine don't call me anymore, friends that I have don't invite me anywhere. I feel so alone!!! I've tried calling them and keeping in touch but no one has time for me. Its so bad that I avoid making friends now and seclude myself from people. I feel that if I make a friend the friendship won't last even if I really try to keep it. Any advice?
2006-10-30 17:31:00 · 13 answers · asked by truth hurts 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
hmmm..well it sounds like there is more going on then what you may be communicating, but going off of what you've written i think you are just investing time into people who aren't really your friends. I think you are throwing pearls at swine, and they don't appreciate it. You can't let those jerks make your afraid to branch out and meet new people. Stop secluding yourself, push yourself, and in time you will meet the friends you deserve. In the mean time, stop putting energy into people who give you nothing in return. When people care, they make the effort. If they don't, cut your losses and count yourself lucky for having avoided such b*tches!
2006-10-30 17:40:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
.Friendship is work on both sides, at times it is even more difficult than a marriage.Friendships don't just happen overnight they need time to grows Acceptance and understanding of each others faults and strengths is a key element to any friendship Having a true friend is worth everything When you have a true friendship it will last for a life time. There is a big difference between a friend and an acquaintance. read the definitions Friend=
the mutual feelings of trust and affection and the behavior that typify relationships between friends
acquaintance =somebody who is known slightly rather than intimately
To have a friend you must be a friend
2006-10-30 20:51:27 · answer #2 · answered by dettie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi tanisha
look:
u should lay the finger on ther real cause....
y is this happening?? it cant be that all of ur friends r ungrateful and dumb and so they don't keep in touch with u any longer or they just don't invite u etc....i wanna help u but i think that ur friends r not to blame! i m not saing that the fault is totally urs but think : y im alone constantly?? y is this happening??
u can make some mistakes....
beside relationships r not easy or what .....
so go for it:
ask them straight whats happening! dare this and u won't lose!! tell them u need to know the truth....they will tell u....
hope ive helped! u can contact me anytime u want if u need further help!!
good luck and smile!~
2006-10-30 17:40:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I want to recommend you get some counseling before you slip too far into depression. That being said...
What types of things do you like to do? Try meeting people that enjoy the same things as you. That way, you have a common interest to build upon. Good luck and God bless.
2006-10-30 17:38:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Read youself first. Where you lack in mixing with friends, whether in conversation, their enterteinment or your mood. Try to mix up leaving your shyness, making interesting talks with various subjects and latest news and incidents happning surrounding you.Talk about movies, hobbies and historical places. Talk on sex is most prefered topic now a days.
2006-10-30 17:44:03 · answer #5 · answered by thinkpose 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, see that you have the same hobbies like your friends.
When they don't keep in touch, then there no good friends.
There people enough in the world, you can also have friends on the Internet.
2006-10-30 17:46:25 · answer #6 · answered by Chantal D. 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if i were you i would tell my friend about my fears,about my fears of missing her/him and asked for help.being totally honest with a friend can be a great help.
and by the way before all i would think about myself and before being honest with anyone i would be so with myself maybe there is a problem and i am hidding it fro myself.
anyway remember that stoppin making friends is even worse . everybody needs friends.
goodluck!
2006-10-30 20:08:01 · answer #7 · answered by saba 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find out what your friends like , try to understand them and be very friendly.
2006-10-30 17:34:38 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I FEEL UR PAIN AND I TOO!!!! AM NOT SO GOOD IN THE FRIEND DEPARTMENT, I HAVE TO MUCH TRUST AND NOT ENOUGH SENSE!!!! U NEED TO GET OUT AND MEET NEW PEOPLE ALLOW YOURSELF TO BE OPEN TO CHANGE AND GO WITH UR INSTINCTS! YOU HAVE TO DECIDE THAT ENOUGH IS ENOUGH AND MAKE A FRIEND, TAKE THAT RISK LIFE IS TO SHORT!!!! BEST OF LUCK !!!! JENN
2006-10-30 18:04:05 · answer #9 · answered by JENN 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There could be many reasons for that. But it sounds like just tough luck. Be well.
2006-10-30 21:59:50 · answer #10 · answered by chi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋