be careful what u express in life because i always said that i could lose anyone in my life and altho i know i would have a hard time but i would get thru it but if i lost my husband i dont know what i would do and that happened to me. he was 46 when he died. we were together 22 yrs. we didnt have a perfect marriage but we sitll loved each other I dont have anyone to talk too really and not that im religious but i live in Utah and the morman church i dont think is where i would go to find any comfort. I miss him so much, Im angry that God took him from me. my life is really a mess and ive considered suicide but im not brave enough to carry that out. I wonder when I die and im lucky enough to see him in heaven will he still love me, will I be able to touch his face, listen to his heart beat. will i know that im there with him and be able to tell him just how much i have missed him. will he tell me the same..i just want to hear his voice and hold his hand again. I love u austin forever
2006-10-30 17:26:20 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you know what? he is up there in heaven wanting u to be happy and enjoy life. As you live each day, you have to be happy and know that ur husband is up there safe with God and he loves you still and wants to be ur inspiration rather than a source of heartbreak.
trust me, he is happy up there.. and trust me, he wants you to be happy here too. Live life happy bec life is short, and when it is finally over, u will find ur husband up there in heaven and he will love u still.. u r in his heart.. thats what heaven is all about. happiness and love for all people.....regardless of race or creed or experiences.....
2006-10-30 17:43:06 · answer #1 · answered by The Punisher 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
You know i already lost one greatest love in my life, the worst part? I never had the chance to fully express the love as he never gave me the chance to do that--it was a one sided love affair. what i mean to say, despite of the lost of your husband, you are still very lucky person because you had the 22 greatest years with him when he was alive. Although you said that your marriage was not that perfect, still you are given a chance to love him, to devote your time, and you submitted your love and life to him. God has nothing to do with the lost of your husband. Death is always upon us and we cant avoid it.
I dont think your husband is happy seeing you out of bounds, having a dragging life and miserable and always having a suicidal thoughts. he will be sad wherever he is now as the 22 years you spent together is getting useless at all now as you are allowing the depressions killing you softly, mentally and emotionally it is killing you. Would you be happy to know that you have to move on, be pretty, socialize to people and maintain a positive outlook so that when the time comes you will meet again your husband , he will say to you, " you are still pretty as the day i first met you". Move on for your husband who is watching over you. And if your spiritual life is getting weak nowadays, i know we have different religion...but it will not hurt you if you call or talk to some Witness of jehova and they will explain to you that there is this NEW WORLD and if you believe in God, yes for sure, someday..sooner you will meet you husband Austin and you will have an everlasting life..goodluck
2006-10-31 01:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by hood 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Love can moved mountains and you have this eternal love, you are a unique woman. Your Austin is gone and it is hard to erase all the memories you've been together for more than 2 decades.
Ok, you said you don't have anyone to talk to and bring up matters relevant to your situation now.
Please make yourself busy, if you have children which you never mentioned, or other relatives, talk to them, to your pastors in your church... go out and see... the beauty of things, people, plants, pets... in your neighborhood. If people/children need help, you can volunteer and do your part attending whatever things you can handle that will make you an energetic person again. And off course, pray and be happy on whatever things God has given and made you what you are....
2006-10-31 01:50:30 · answer #3 · answered by dodadz 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sorry to hear the sad news and the agony U are going through. However, U need to be strong and carry on your life without him next to U. Do not isolated yourself. Take part in any charity club or organization. Participate in their activity. Make yourself occupied. Meet your late husband friends. Get close to them. U will feel U are very near to your husband when U are around with his friends. Listen to their stories when they were together with your late husband. and last not least, do your prayer and pray for his good life in heaven.Committing suicide is a not a way out to problem. Address the problem and fight your way out. Never give up in life.
2006-10-31 01:50:15 · answer #4 · answered by atbt 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As someone who looks at this question every day your husband just want you to be happy when you are ready you should move on just find some freinds at first then try to find a boy freind do it at your pace no one else's besure that you are ready think about it would he want you to be lonely? I know i must be scary for you but the ruff part is life goes on with out our passed loved one's he would really want you to be happy and not alone don't spend the rest of your life questing welther you should have moved on in your time when your ready go ahead and make the move , you will see him again .. he still loves you too . do what your heart wants but dont end your life he would be saddend by this its painful but you must find a person to do things with it will get better only after it gets worse keep your head up and remember he is smiling down on you wanting you to be happy .
2006-10-31 01:52:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
I recently lost my mother and I understand what you are going through. Please accept my deepest sympathy. They say that time heals all wounds, but some wounds are too deep to ever heal fully. I hope that your husband realized what a wonderful, loving wife he had. If he didn't fully appreciate you in life, I am sure that he does now, as he looks down on you from heaven. While you should never forget him or stop loving him, I am sure that he would want you to go on with your life, and find in it whatever happiness you can before, one day, you are reunited with him for all eternity. I wish you all the best.
2006-10-31 01:34:20 · answer #6 · answered by Perplexed Music Lover 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Let me first say that I am really sorry for your loss. Secondly, i wondered if you've ever considered grief counseling? I think it would really help you move forward with your life. You can never forget your husband, but you are still alive and there are people who love and need you. I think talking to a professional could help get you out of this depression, but coud also give you an unbiased outlet to confront your anger and sadness. I hope this helps... and may God bless you.
2006-10-31 01:31:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
just remember that he LOVES you and only wants you to be happy, that doesn't always move on to another man. take one day at a time and when the time is right you'll either meet some one that is understanding enough of the feelings you still carry for you husband or you'll just find a friend that you can talk to and will help you through all the rough times. remember that he's waiting for you on the other side, but don't rush it when it's time it's time.
2006-10-31 01:33:58 · answer #8 · answered by rickys_lil_mama 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Dear:
Im 24 years old and I just lost my relationship with my wife, she is 20 years old, but I know there's still hope, I just need to change. So what Im trying to say is this I'm starting to appreciate what it is when you dont have that especial someone with you. I cannot relate to what you are going trought, but one thing is for sure, get to know God, and know him well, because believe me, if you husband is seeing and hearing you being sad and worried about him, he also will be worried, miss you need to be happy that's how you husband remembers you and that's how you husband will see you when is your turn to see him; but for right now miss him, but not like that, not that desperate, but in other ways,like think of him, but dont miss him to the point that is hurting you, death happens and is not easy, but believe me, get to know God.
2006-10-31 01:34:27 · answer #9 · answered by Darksied 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to hear that, I can't imagine how it feels, I'm young and recently the love of my life left me two months ago and the pain for me has been unbearable i've tried to just move on and get on with my life but it's so difficult to do that. I loved her and wanted to marry her and be with her forever and now she is gone. Everyone tells me time heals all wounds but things like this sometimes just will never heal completely.
2006-10-31 01:29:28 · answer #10 · answered by digdoggy299 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
five years is long period to make u comfortable and to learn to live without a person who was ur spouse. U might take some counseling. The fond hopes which u have about ur reunion with him after ur death are all make believe stories. The other world is also here only. When u pop off u leave every connection in this world here itself. Ur husband has also done so.
2006-10-31 01:31:42 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋