My 16 yr old stepdaughter was seeing a no good loser & at one time thought she was pregnant. My husband was furious and forbid her to see or speak to this boy. Who happens to be 18. Anyway, we recently moved to a new town about 9 hours away, so she was not to happy with moving. I thought she would have a chance to meet new people and possibly a new b/f. But she refuses to make friends she still talks to this boy on the phone and on comp. but hasnt lately cause I grounded her.she says she doesnt want a new b/f cause once she graduates she and this boy are going to get married. She is in the 10 grade, How can I make her understand that he is not going to wait for her for 3 yrs, every time she talks to this boy he accuses her of cheating on him and he makes her cry. my husband and I have tried talking to her She looks depressed and is thin. She has no goals for future but marrying this boy. Am afraid shell end up preg. and alone. Do I call boy up and tell him to leave her alone? Help
2006-10-30 17:18:24 · 8 answers · asked by Baby boy blue 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am a 21 year old guy and I am absolutely not interested in dating younger girls than 19 because girls change alot from 10 grade to freshman year of college. She needs to understand that alot of things change, I dated the same girl from age 16 to 19 and I use to always say that I would marry her and I was wrong. I am pretty young so I am not as experienced as you but I would think to tell teh guy to never talk to her again and you could get the law involved since he is 18 and that is illegal, but then again she might just rebel if you do that, so it is up to you, but i really think that this move will be really good for her to get her away from him. It will force her to talk to other people and make new friends to forget about him. The way he sounds, he will probably hook up with another girl during this time and will reaveal his true colors. She should also make plans for her own future, I made plans for mine even while I was with my ex because I knew there is always a possiblity that things won't work out. Best of Luck to you. God Bless
2006-10-30 17:30:35 · answer #1 · answered by HHH 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you agree that she can marry him in 3 years if that's what she wants. Don't aruge. Tell her she can have 2 phone calls a week and 30 minute of instant messaging to him or whatever you think is appropriate.
Meanwhile, once that issue is put to rest, get her involved in other activities- school, clubs, family things, hobbies, volunteer work, sports, etc. Let it ride, and pretty soon this will all blow over. Just stop telling her she's wrong and he's a loser and divert her attention.
2006-10-30 17:24:03 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Block his calls- incoming and outgoing. Try not to focus too much on him, it will become a power struggle. Instead, try to get yourself and the rest of your family involved in things that you can do together, also, if you belong to a church, enroll her in the youth group there. You might also ask her if she is interested in joining a sports club at the local gym or YMCA/YWCA or join an arts class at the local craft shop.
2006-10-30 17:26:55 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
put pressure on the guy to stay away.. and then get a restraining order... if that doesn't work u need to know some guy who knows some guys.. i find this works with the guys trying to date my lil sister.. ducktape and placed 15 miles out in the wilderness.. and covered in honey for the bears... after a couple nights hiking out of the woods in the dark with the rattlers copperheads, wild boars mountain lions and bears... not to mention the pot growers.. they are more than happy to comply...
2006-10-30 18:05:09 · answer #4 · answered by terryshawn1975 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
get a few guys to go to this dirtbags house and kick his a$$. I mean really work the turd over. if he really loves her after taking that kind of beating he may be okay but jus to make sure have the guys do it a couple of more times to be on the safe side
2006-11-01 13:45:07 · answer #5 · answered by staqk3 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
she is just trying to find her place in the world. she will grow out of it. I know it is hard to think of it this way, but think how you felt at her age. Detach yourself from the fact she is your daughter and put yourself in her shoes. from there you will be able to empathize and better help her see. No that being said, if you want to do the heavy handed aproach, if oyu are in the USA it is a crime for him to be with your daughter and as such you do have full rights to place statatory rape charges against him. this is something that will destroy his life so I would advise you against this and just work with your daughter. she will eventually see, but try to empathise
2006-10-30 17:24:02 · answer #6 · answered by daggermouth 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Wow! That is bad. You must try to find a way to make it clear for her that this boy is not for her. Maybe he has some dirt that he does not want other poeple to find out about. Try to ask his friends about who is this guy.
2006-10-30 17:21:44 · answer #7 · answered by shkabaj 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i'd be sure and encourage her in school and if you call him up and tell him to leave her alone it'll just be the teenage romeo and juliet drama of nearly every teen. encourage her to have fun with her friends that are around her and tell her that she'll regrete it if she pushes her friends that are here away.spend time with her and talk to her. remind her how young they are and how much youth means.
2006-10-30 17:34:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋