I was with my bf early last yr n things did'nt turn out right,so we separated..i meet him 2 months back and we are together now..b4 we were officially an item..he confessed that there was this girl he was with aft i n him broke up.And he got her pregnant n he ask her to abort it.I got so freak out coz he is really a nice guy.He hates her attitude coz she has this very bad temper n tantrum.He can't be with somone like her.They abort the baby and the 2nd time she had a miscarrige.She agreed to it too.Eventually they broke up but she still wants him.
Now me n him are together but the incident of him n the x gf kept running in my mind..I know it's his past..but..If i were to have his baby one day i wont feel special coz my baby is nt his 1st child.. How do i accept all that has happen in a positive way coz i really want this to work..i love him but i wanna be special.n i dun feel tat way aft what happen btw him n the ex gf.Iam nt worried if he does e same coz iam nt havin sex w him..
2006-10-30 17:13:21 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yikes!!! Certainly you dont believe that aborting or miscarrying is the same as a full pregnancy and birth!!! Yeah, put that past behind you. Not even considered a good experience for him. Unwanted and troubled relationship he had, and extremely careless if he didnt want babies. You dont have to accept it as anything positive. Just think into the future and talk about children some other day long after youre married. Good luck. Peace.
2006-10-30 17:19:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If the guy knows how to treat you, he should or will make you feel special eventually. When I was a teenager, I really wanted to have sex with a virgin. As I got older that liklihood got slimmer and slimmer, as the woman around me got older and older, and more likely to have had sex in the past. When I was about 20 I gave up the 'dream' of having sex with a virgin. You know how I feel about it now? I feel I was spoiled - PLENTY of people had had sex before, why should I care so much that I am not their first? It was an egotistical and arrogant thing for me to want. If I was special enough to a person, that is all that should matter. Surely, you see the parallels between my story and yours. If he is the one, then you are special because you are together, it's that simple. If he isn't, or isn't yet 'the one', then try to be happy you have someone. Look on the bright side - maybe he will do something really bad and you'll realize he isn't the one for you and next fall for a guy that has never impregnated someone or had sex before :)
2006-10-30 17:19:53 · answer #2 · answered by TwilightWalker97 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sounds like he is an irresponsible person. He had kids and he ask her to abortion. He had made a mistake by not using condem. A baby got killed. And he kept doing it without birth control, if it were not miscarriage, he properly would ask her to abort it also.
I am sorry to say this. Think twice about such a person. What you hear about what happen between him and the other girl is just a one side story. It could very well be a different story.
I have a feeling that he may get back to you partially because he wants to leave the girl. You will be used as an excuse so that girl will stay away.
2006-10-30 17:20:18 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
how old are you guys really? why is this idea of abortion so easily accepted and tolerated? in the first place, why are you even tolerating the fact that he told the girl to abort the baby- giving this girl's attitude as a reason not to go through with the pregnancy- couldnt you just see that he just wants the sex- but too cowardly to face up to the consequences? yea so the girl has a bad attitude- does that merit her having her innards spoilt and used?
all that aside, since you really seem to love this guy- claiming he is nice yet he still makes another girl suffer- if you want this to be special... abstain from sex til both of you are married. that way, it will be special. because it is sacred and legal, to say the least. and he must have loved you that much if you both were to get hitched.
cheers.
2006-10-30 17:18:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anna D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my view I feel that you should leave this guy.If he can asked his ex gf to abort after getting the girl pregnant. I dont think it is advisable for you to be with him coz he may just want to have sex with you but not the responsibility. In fact I think he don't really love both of you. What he want is just lust. Don't carry on with the mistake. it is not late to make a turn back now
2006-10-30 19:23:37 · answer #5 · answered by Clown & Joker 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to not get pregnant from him, you need to be married if you are to begin a family...forget the past, he is with you now...so take care that you don't get make mistakes...till both of you are serious...to start a future...
2006-10-30 17:24:27 · answer #6 · answered by qdrama1956 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear my luv , i care for u so much . This guy is so heartless and it's up to u to take this or leave it. Y is he making this gal to suffer. Honestly he is not a nice guy. Arbortion is against God's law .. Remember my luv , this might also happen to u .. U separated hey and he dated another woman .. Wut caused ur separation with him. Think abt it ...... Wish u well
2006-10-30 17:30:26 · answer #7 · answered by mommy2be 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
HE ISN'T THAT NICE IF HE HAS THE BALLS TO TELL SOMEONE TO ABORT ANOTHER HUMAN BEING.THAT WAS VERY WRONG OF HIM SO WHAT IF HE GETS TIRED OF YOUR ATTITUDE AND HE GETS YOU PREGNANT THEN HE MIGHT JUST TELL YOU TO DO THE SAME
2006-10-30 17:22:14 · answer #8 · answered by Kay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he got this girl pregnant. dont you see what he lacks that is morals toward others. you made two bad decisions and you are with it . my opion?
2006-10-30 17:18:48 · answer #9 · answered by the_silverfoxx 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have made such a big mistake, and not once but twice...
2006-10-30 17:15:18 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋