Does anyone know how i can please my husband...he is always stressed and he is leaving for afganistan soon....i don't want him upset i just want to be there for him...he is just always mean and grumpy
2006-10-30 16:49:38 · 5 answers · asked by alexandra82387 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am married to a sailor and I know that they can get real stressed out just before they deploy. The best thing u can give him at this difficult period is lots of patience and understanding. If he needs to talk, be there to listen to him. If he wants his space, make sure u give it to him.
The last thing he needs is u making him feel guilty for leaving u. I know it can be hard for the spouse who is left behind but u have to realize that it's even harder for him because he is going away, not knowing what will happen. It will be a very big adjustment for the both of u. When he comes back home, u will go thru the same adjustment again.
Make sure that when he's away that u don't forget to communicate with each other and give him your support and assurance that u will always be there for him no matter what. Good luck.
2006-10-30 17:07:44 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is understandable he is stressed. He is leaving his family, friends and most of all, his wife at home to serve. Worries and fears of what going to happen there and what will happen at home while he is gone. That is alot to think about and stress on.
My fiance is going to Iraq for second tour in March.
Be patient and talk to him. Give positive hope and go have some good memories with him. Understand his grumpiness and explain to him in a nice, but firm tone that you understand he is under a lot of stress, but as his wife, you don't feel it warrents to be mean.
He might not realize he is being mean. My fiance sometimes might get "I want it this way" attitude as that is what they do. He has to be reminded his behavior is to be altered when he comes home. I put him in his place on that as we both are two peas in a pod on our personalities. But I let some things slip as, under pressure of war, it can only make them more fusturated.
I give my fiance massages and do activities that he loves that helps relieve alot of the stress. Sometimes he even forgets he is leaving as we get involved deeply into activities (paint ball and working on his truck).
2006-10-30 17:29:07 · answer #2 · answered by Mutchkin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Patience. That's about all you can do. He's upset and for good reason. Just be there for him, listen to him, and ask him if there's anything he needs. He's only grumpy because he knows he's going to be away from you for awhile. Weird way of showing his sadness right? But soldiers have many different emotions. Good luck!
2006-10-30 16:52:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
He's in a stressful situation and he's going for a long time in a very dangerous place...cherish every moment with him, help him to relax by giving his massages and be understanding of his short temper (as long as you're not being abused) and kind in return to his irritation.
2006-10-30 16:53:51 · answer #4 · answered by DrSH 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WELL HE'S PROBABLY MAD BECAUSE HES ABOUT TO GO TO A VERY SCARY PLACE AND HE DOESN'T WANT TO LEAVE HIS FAMILY. HE IS GOING TO NEED YOU NOW MORE THAN EVER. JUST BE PATIENT AND LET HIM KNOW THAT YOU LOVE HIM AND THAT YOU ARE THERE FOR HIM
(MY HUSBAND WAS IN THIS SAME SITUATION THIS TIME LAST YEAR)
2006-10-30 17:02:17 · answer #5 · answered by Kay 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋