What would you do if you just met a girl,went on a date with her, and she told you she got a divorce a few months ago and the guy was abusive. She seemed very well put together,strong, has put it behind her, and looked at the good things in life. Would that freak you out?
2006-10-30 16:39:25 · 9 answers · asked by freedove06 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To be honest,
- It would be an issue to listen to somebody's failure. It would be sympathy first, then also a realization that it has hit home, meaning (I am now involved with a divorced girl). The guy might not know what to say. You can easily separate the mature ones from the immature ones with the response. Generally if love is there, people can put this issue behind
However, the guy might want some facts to corroborate the story, because he wants to make sure that the girl also does not have the same quality and has her own set of issues
2006-10-30 16:47:44 · answer #1 · answered by rvsasi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
While your desire to be honest and up front about where you stand is nice, it would be a bit too much right at first. I would ask clarifying questions if you said it to me, but in my mind I would be thinking, "Is she saying this to make me stay away from her? If she wants to stay away, why are we out on a date? It seems too forward to ask because it sounds like I want this big relationship right away and I don't, and she isn't being clear why she is telling me this, so forget it. I'll chalk this up to a nice evening and never call her again."
Now maybe after I knew you a bit better and things took that turn towards dating - that might be a good time to say, "It seems we are both feeling that our relationship is starting to change, so before it goes any further, there is something I want you to know. I am telling you this because...[whatever your reason is]."
2006-10-31 01:00:46 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she is tired of playing games knows what she needs and is not going to settle for anything less than what she deserves. I like it, and that's coming from a fellow divorcee, straight up real talk always makes the best conversation. So no, I would not be freaked out but I would be concerned.
2006-10-31 00:54:53 · answer #3 · answered by SNIPERDAWG 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
On a first date that would be a bit much, maybe on the second or third. That's a very personal thing, might make a first date go timid real quick.
-NmD!
2006-10-31 00:42:33 · answer #4 · answered by NoMaD! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would not beleive at once and do research at myself to know the facts. After if she found correct, I can accpet her else ignore because if she can tell a lie at the start then what she will do in coming days.
2006-10-31 00:49:01 · answer #5 · answered by mrs509eb 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
drop her like a hot potatoe, damaged goods right there
god forbid if i say something wrong one time like "no, you can't have that" and it gets misconstrued into some type of new abuse or something
2006-10-31 01:04:58 · answer #6 · answered by zether 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would kinda freak me out but if the girl was abbused then i would look out for her and mak sure that would never happen again
2006-10-31 00:42:23 · answer #7 · answered by Thomas G 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not unless she went on for hours at a time talking about him
2006-10-31 00:52:02 · answer #8 · answered by Smith Jerrod 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you consider her past to be any of your business?
2006-10-31 00:44:57 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋