Hiee. I am married since almost 4yrs now. My husband is an educated man with a good job. So am I.I have akid of 2.6 yrs. Normally my husband is ok with me. But when he loses temper he is violent. He abuses me and also hits me when worse.I have been forgiving him everytime.This time I told his mom coz he hit me too badly, although he realised it. But I had to tell his mom. HIs mom got angry at him and made him understand he shudnt be doing it. He got wild at me again as to why I told his mom all this. Today morning we again fought i nfront of my kid. My parents are coming to pick me to their city which is 15 hours journey from mine. I dont know whether I shud go with them or not?Coz if I go, i wud lose a chance to join my new job which is my dream job and a gud pay.I am supposed to join them in november 2nd week.
I am confused. Please help.Shud I leave him or shud i ask my mom to stay with me thats what my husband asked my mom to do coz he thinks that someone shud stay with us2 c fault
2006-10-30 16:32:46 · 5 answers · asked by smiling_smiles2000 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you should get a divorce and move out, honey.
A habitual wife-beater ain't gonna change.
By the way, are you American?
There are Laws against that here, you know.
2006-10-30 16:37:10 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any type of physical abuse is not worth anything. If you keep your dream job still move out. If you can't do that, then you'll have to decide on what your going to sacrifice>>your dream job, or the safety of you and your child. Inevitably, his physical abuse will trickle on to your child, it is what the stastics show in reguards to domestic abuse. You should count your blessings that he has not killed you or your child yet! Forgiving him everytime he beats the c**p out of you isn't going to make it better, nor is telling his mom. What good is a dream job if you can't make it to work because you either have a black eye, or broken bones? What makes you so sure he will allow you to keep the job anyways? What makes you think that telling his mom is going to make him stop? Didn't he still beat you after you intially told her? When you move out don't look back, don't be a fool either! Abusers always like to beat the cr**p out of you, then always tell you how sorry they are. This is a pattern, and the outcome is always the same. Get some counseling, and read up more on domestic violence. You will learn that your situation is not "special", and that your husband isn't going to "change" or be "different"! Good Luck and I will pray for God to give you wisdom , and courage. You also don't want your child to learn that it is okay to be beaten! After all, 97% of children who grow up in abusive home either become abused or abusive... If not for yourself think about your child:)
2006-10-30 16:52:40 · answer #2 · answered by wherenai 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police and have him arrested. Beating someone is a felony, and you can't do that. They'll put him in jail for a while and them you will have to move and find a home where you can live with your child without him finding you and hurting you, but you should know that many battered wives get killed by their husbands.
You need to do what you can before he kills or cripples you.
2006-10-30 16:37:14 · answer #3 · answered by Cattlemanbob 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if it's on a daily basis, you should leave him. If it's only every now and then ask your parents to stay!
2006-10-30 16:39:01 · answer #4 · answered by brown eyed gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOUR FIRST CONCERN SHOULD BE YOUR CHILDREN
YOU NEED TO GET OUT OF THIS SITUATION. AND THAT MEAN GOING WITH YOUR FAMILY THEN DO IT, YOU MAY
NOT HAVE A CHANGE TO DO ANYTHING AT THE END.
THE FACT IS HE WILL CONTINUE TO HIT YOU UNTIL
YOU DO SOMETHING ABOUT IT. THEY COME FIRST.
2006-10-30 16:38:26 · answer #5 · answered by luckystar 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋