But now absolutely no relation as he took the initiative in stopping it as my hubby came to know about this though not fully. I have gone through so much trouble in life but never bothered about my problems and faced everything happily. But now when this relation ended I am feeling finished. Initially he encouraged me..pulled me to him,..pampered me helped me voluntarily...so much behind me. That time he also was going through a bad phase in his personal life with a family and a long standing GF whom he really loved a lot but had cheated on him. He is really doing very well financially. Now he has got that confidence back in his life as even his GF is pleading him to come back and he has that temptation for her always. Their relationship is too long. But now my married life has got completely spoilt and feeling too lonely with nobody around. He doesnot speak properIy if I call. I want to be different person forgetting the past and lead a respectful life. Want to make good friends.
2006-10-30 16:24:17 · 13 answers · asked by Saheli 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Firstly forget about your boyfreid he stinks. I am on the other side of the coin I caught my wife cheating on me. So perhaps I can guide you better........ the first thing that gets destroyed in this process is trust, and trust is unfortunately the backbone of a relationship, can your husband beleive that you will not leave him tomorrow for someone else, temptations come in life if you have succumbed to them, and are repentant it will show, give it time, if it is meant to be it will be otherwise there is not much you can do about it, personally I think that talking will not be of much help as he will always feel that you have comeback only because of rejection and he is only the second choice, make up your mind if you really want to go back to your husband rather than talking to him make gestures of repentence they convey more than words, but be sure you want to go back.
2006-10-31 01:15:20 · answer #1 · answered by srisri c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can start over again. Put the net relationship out of your mind and put that energy into your marriage if you want it to work. You still have a chance to make it work with him. If you are not willing to work at it then move on and start over again on your own. Live and learn from your mistakes. Remember that your marriage is real and is there in front of you...you know your husband and what he's really like. With a net relationship you only know what the other person tells you. Actions speak louder than words.
2006-10-30 23:51:38 · answer #2 · answered by vanhammer 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no doubt about it, the pain of an ended relationship can be extremely agonizing. The questions, the fear of an endless future of pain and the hurt are all too often present and almost feed off each other creating a feeling of utter helplessness. Within this gloomy picture, it is important to realise that all these emotions and feelings will pass and you will not always feel this bad. Like a fresh wound, the pain is always greatest at the start.
You will get over it. Time is the best medicine. Good luck.
2006-10-30 17:31:12 · answer #3 · answered by Samir Mehta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi Friend..,
First of all my sympathy's are with you.Well one thing is quite sure that. u have passed through a very rough pach of your life..but then i think u should haveno regrets fo the same becos you yourself were responsible for that.I hope u would wont mind me blaming you partially.
See your situation one thing is quite and that is you no how to accpet the life..and only becos of this u are still strong enough to think of your future.
Let me clear your net friends situation first.In this matter u need to understand that whatever you were doing as a relationship was absolutely wrong as u were already married.. and also u were aware that the concerned person did had Love..
So first of all you have to make your heart realise that the relationship on net was just a wrong one or maybe u need to make youself feel that it was nightmare..i no its tough..but let me say you one thing its not impossible..
Then coming to your personal life..u need to make sure that u give utmost respect to your husband even through he doesnt see you in real......see eve stone can melt in a sever heat then we are just human-beings...but this time make sure that u r really committed towards your husband..and one or the other day u would win the battle....and u would wont find yourself alone...
And well there is no need for you to think that u are not improved as aperson negativ thinking would lead to severe mental disturbance..and i belive u are quite strong women....so just feel easy and take things lightly and accpet nything that u feel u are wrong..ok
GOD BLESS U.TKCR.BYEBYE
2006-10-31 05:04:16 · answer #4 · answered by lalit_jain123 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i am so proud of you. you must be a strong person, you did something foolish, now you want to correct it. you admit your mistake. that takes courage. it is hard to feel emptiness in your life, and not desire what you had that makes you feel good. that however is over now. for now don't do anything. you are upset, maybe not thinking clearly, so, i suggest to wait a while. use the time to go on a self improvement program. what would make you feel better , facial, do nails , diet? new hairstyle? also improve mind and maybe meditate, and focus on what you can do to become a better person. the most obvious thing is seek help and comfort from your husband. he can be there for you if you repent , and show him you love him. best wishes!
2006-10-30 16:58:31 · answer #5 · answered by cee jay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why dont you check out that book called, The Proper Care and Feeding of Husbands, by Dr Laura. It's spiritual and practical and has great anectdotes and your husband might get happy from you reading it. Leave it lying around on a table someplace where he'll see it. ;) Peace.
2006-10-30 16:32:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get some semblance of order into your life. First things first. Since you are married attend to your husband and forget others. Mend your relationship with him, by being a good wife. Only you knows what can please him. Be a good wife first before you can expect him to be a good husband. We should not expect others to do what we cannot do ourselves. Listen to the answers. They are good ones.
2006-10-30 19:26:00 · answer #7 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So your situation is like your friend has gone back to his gf while ur hubby has come to know a few things btwn u & ur frnd....i guess u need to talk to ur huby abt ur relationship with ur frnd which happ when both of u were low in ur life and nothing fishy btwn u both....ur huby will und it dat ur being open to him once u tell in detail nd u can swing back to normal life...All the Best :)...If ur in search for friends u can count on me....mail me at j.harish@yahoo.co.in
2006-10-30 19:40:01 · answer #8 · answered by Harish 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi fren....i can understand your problem.........but you should be strong . and one thing i wanna make clear that , if you push too much like calling him again & again , or trying topull him towards you it will definetly not work..coz its a basic nature of men until a gal dont give them a damn they are after a gal like anything and once the gal comitt anything and man comes to know that now this gal will not go anywhere , he will be less careful abt her. So my suugetion is try to find a fren in your husband...and try as much as possible to save your marriage . Try to spend time with him as much as possible. may be it will work... Gud luck to you.
2006-10-30 17:07:55 · answer #9 · answered by vikas n 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Truly speaking, books are the only good friends. Indulge yourself in reading books you will certainly improve your personality.
2006-10-31 01:31:55 · answer #10 · answered by ars32 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋