he is nice caring to me and my daughter but when he is angry he is completely a different person,so rude and harsh that i start hating him from bottom of my heart. i am confused wheter he is good or no.does he have any girl friend or what?.
2006-10-30 16:23:01 · 12 answers · asked by reena 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
hey relax, thats just his temper.... u have to get used to it and tell him (in the right time) that he has to lower his voice.... u deserve better
2006-10-30 16:25:24 · answer #1 · answered by wendysmmrs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a child I assume he had some anger issues and went through alot of different "classes" in school because of this. People, especially men don't grow out of this habit. He still has the same issue he does as a child and still needs help. He won't get the help either because you don't have the money or he doesn't want to get it. If drinking is a constant in your relationship he will begin to be angry while drinking. Eventually, he will drink more and more so he has an excuse to mis-behave because it will be a security net for him to feel however he wants and forget how life really is. This will compromise your safety and relationship. Now, what do you mean by "does he havea ny girl friend or what"??
I assume you think hes cheating. You have a terrible husband, I would go to your mothers this weekend and talk to someone about it.
2006-10-30 16:34:59 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whenever someone is angry the worst comes out of that person and they are totally different rom what they are usually like. If your husband is loving and caring when he is not angry and this only happens when he gets upset you should nt question his love for you. If his behavior when he is angry makes you feel this way you should have a talk with him amd tell how you feel and ask him if he could try and control his anger so that you dont have these feelings of doubt about his feelings for you.
2006-10-30 16:28:25 · answer #3 · answered by <<SEXY MOMMA>> 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am one of those husbands.
It is highly possible that
a) His short temper is a natural issue for him, due to his upbringing
or
b) He has some anxiety , depression that he is fighting and somehow you could have made it allright but you are not.doing it.
For example relationships with his parents
or
c) There is 9 things that he has repeatedly requested you NOT to do which makes him irritable, but you have ignored him and are continued to do, this disrespecting him, So when do you the 10th, it all bursts forward, not just the 10th, but the unhappiness over 1 to 9 (for which he politely showed his incompatibility)
Hope you learn from your mistakes by introspecting on these lines and figure out which category you beling to.
2006-10-30 16:39:19 · answer #4 · answered by rvsasi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was he like this before you married him? If so shut-up!!! If not ask him to see a doctor, as something has happened and it may be organic. Then again it may be the situation he finds himself in. Many women marry a man for what they believe they can make him into. Have you been trying to stuff your husband into a mold that doesn't fit?
There is more to this story than you are telling. You may not be aware of it, but I assure you there is more...
2006-10-30 16:52:57 · answer #5 · answered by gimpalomg 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People say hurtful things to the one they are closest to when they're angry or upset. If you don't like his choice of words, tell him when you're both calm and make a visit to a marriage counselor to find ways to argue without hurting each other too deeply.
2006-10-30 16:25:53 · answer #6 · answered by brilliantyetconfused 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!? A few days down the road I'll look back at this question and think it is mine! I'm in the same boat dear. Don't know how to answer this one,,,sorry.
2006-10-30 16:27:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How come you don't know you loves him or not??? If you want to know, try to live for a few weeks or months without tour husband. Maybe he would changes, at that time you will know whether you loves him or not.
2006-10-30 16:34:36 · answer #8 · answered by Husni Zaim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to either get out of that situation it is not good for you and or your daughter. It is not a stable environment. If you really love him, try and get him help, he sounds as if he has a temper and he needs to learn to control it. Please think about the situation and either get help or get out.
2006-10-30 16:26:51 · answer #9 · answered by melissa052572 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
IF YOU DONT KNOW IF YOU LOVE HIM WHY DID YOU MARRY HIM GET SOME BRAINS
2006-10-30 16:26:52 · answer #10 · answered by angeleyes12181@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋