How do I become more... feminine and girly?

Question

I'm a woman who has really never been comfortable in skirts and dresses. I run around barefoot 24/7, and my favorite colors are black and pink. I never shave my legs (once a month is normal shave time for me-ick), and yes, I shave my underarms every other day. But, I don't wear make-up or heels, or do my hair up. I'm just comfortable in jeans, but I want my daughter to learn all the girly stuff from me (I have a very masculine mother), so she'll at least know what to do to be girly. Help Me!

Answer 1

You can't change you. You can try wearing the dress and makeup but you wouldn't be comfortable in your own skin. What you should teach your daughter is to be comfortable with who she is whether it's a girly girl or a tomboy.

Answer 2

Just do the opposite of what you are doing now. Shave your legs at least once a week, try on some natural looking makeup, have a stylist show you how to do your hair. You can wear jeans while still looking femanine. You should get some teen mags and then go shopping with your daughter....and maybe watch the movie Clueless! good luck

Answer 3

ok well first off you need to be shaving when ever it starts to get hair again, thats under arms and legs, with the make-up you can get really nice natural looking make-up,nice browns and greens,nothing to heavy, just a little bit of mascara, blush, foundation and some clear lip gloss, make sure you clean your skin, and use a good moisturiser and use sun screen on your skin everyday, if you can pass that to your daugter she will have beautiful skin when she gets older, maybe get a nice hair clip and matching necklas and braclet, and you can go shopping for clothes together etc...dont change who you are as a person but if you want to set a good examply to your child and teach her about girly stuff then do it in a pleasant and non over the top maner.

Answer 4

Can I be honest with you here? I reckon you'll teach your daughter a far-more valuable lesson in life if you can just be yourself. Teenagers (and not just girls either) encounter so many messages in the media about what they "should" & "should not" look or act like, to the point that many end up not knowing who the hell they are. Just allow her to see that it is OK just to be yourself, no gimmicks required. By trying to be something that you clearly are not, all you will do is reinforce the concept that being true to yourself in never enough - and you don't want to teach her that.

As an aside, my fiancée is not the most feminine creature on earth - bit of tom-boy really (she hates it when I say that) - but I love her all the more for just being herself, instead of feeling she always needs to slap on the make-up before leaving the house ...that's one of her best features as far as I'm concerned :)

Answer 5

There is nothing non-feminine about bluejeans and bare feet. :-) But, if your daughter is interested in being "girly", you can help her out and you don't necessarily have to change your style (my Mom was never really into make-up or anything super girly either). Help her pick out the kinds of clothes that you find pretty (and appropriate) for girls in her age group--any young woman's magazine (or teen movies) can help you there. If you take her to a nail salon for manicures and a make-up counter (like, MAC or Bobbie Brown) for make-up and application instructions, she'll get the hang of it. You never know, she might prefer to be a natural and earthy beauty (like my Mom and sister) rather than a made-up goddess (like me). :-)

Answer 6

if you're daughter is a girly girl, i think you would know. if she's more of a tom boy, i think you would know

i don't think you can force you're kids to be tomboys or girly girls, they just are. my mom wanted me to be a girly girl... i thought everything we wore when young was ugly and tacky (ya i must have been a judgemental kid apparantly) and refused to play the flute in grade seven because that's what all the girls played.

you don't have to wear dresses and skirts, or shave your legs and wear make up. you just have to pay attention to her interests. take her shopping and ask her what she likes. take her to a beauty salon to get her nails done - i always loved getting my nails done when i was little.

and your husband is okay with you not caring what-so-ever about your appearance?? wow, that's fantastic

i'm not a mom, but if my mom didn't care about her appearance, i would think she's a slob. but who am i to call you a slob?? maybe try styling your hair, like even using a blow dryer and putting on mascara. take pride in yourself, so she learns to take pride in herself.

Answer 7

OMG your daughter will learn all you need to do is have teen mags all over the house and elle and all that other stuff in the house sooner or later she'll want to look good and when she asks you whether if something looks good in the magazine ie eyeshadow then take her to a store that sells it and buy it for her
TAKE HER SHOPPING!!!!!!!!!!!!
also being masculine is great who cares
its GIRL POWER
btw I love black and pink too
but black looks best

Answer 8

Having your feet pedicured and painted makes you experience very female and sturdy approximately your self :) Do it even interior the iciness reason it makes you smile once you seem down and notice all of them colourful and neat. Curl your hair so which you have mushy waves :) Straighten once you experience like it. placed on heels once you circulate out for dinner for no different reason yet to experience attractive approximately your self.

Answer 9

I wasn't comfortable in skirts until this summer! It depends on how old your daughter is. If she's pretty young, then it's probably in her nature to be "girly" or effeminate. If she's older, like middle schooler, then she'll probably learn it from her friends.
Or who knows? Maybe she'll be like you!

Answer 10

OMG OMG OMG! Ohhh GOO gaaaaa girly stuff!
Who cares? You're not that way! Why bother trying to teach her something that you're not? It doesn't make a lot of sense does it?