Ok guys...say you had a myspace or e-mail address and your girlfriend somehow got into it and found stuff saying baby girl to other girls and how you want to be with them, and your girlfriend did the same to you to see how you would feel but you reacted alot worse than she did and you planned to physically cheat on her but you didn't have the heart, but you still do the things you do online, but you still can't trust her now even though its been a while, because of what your girlfriend did you even though you did the same, and say she apologized to you so many times but you don't think sorry will cut it, is there something you would want her to do for a better apology or will this always eat you up inside no matter what? Please give me good answers I need a guys perspective!
2006-10-30 16:08:40 · 10 answers · asked by ~*bOrEd*~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Good, intimate relationships are built upon trust, and it does not sound like you two have any in each other.
The trick is to find ways to rebuild it, or, cut your losses, and move on to a new relationship--learning from your mistakes.
Some ways you can develop trust:
1) Don't give him any reason NOT to trust you.
2) Let him read your diary (don't have one?...start one).
3) Share your deepest thoughts, fantasies, embarrassing moments with each other--and don't tell a soul.
4) Close your eyes, and fall backward into each others arms.
5) Ask him what he fears the most in life (and no B.S. answers about "losing you, of course!")
6) Saying you're sorry does not speak nearly as loud as showing him you are sorry; this starts with not repeating the behavior, or getting into a pissing contest, to see who can be the most rude, intrusive, unfair and selfish in a tit-for-tat game: this things always have two losers, and no winners.
2006-10-30 16:38:28 · answer #1 · answered by Howie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Trust is only a few words, but has a big meaning. The problem here was there was none too start because you kept intimate details away from your relationship. If you were really comfortable with your partner you would have been able to say anything to them, and not go behind their back. The real childish thing was to cheat because one couldn't get their needs met whether physical, emotional, or spiritual. Since, this trust thing was always there long before any strain was put on this relationship, this partner may not be right for you. However, with good communication and opening up on both ends this relationship can float, but are you two willing to commit to something like that.
2006-10-30 17:31:28 · answer #2 · answered by The Tank 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well considering the guy did it first I do not believe that he deserves even a sorry if he did not give one and is still doing the same stuff. it is wrong and crap, the girl is at less fault since it was a revenge thing, but it still does not make it right. my personal oppinion the girl should have kicked hte guy out or left him when she found those mails. My personal thought is that internet relationships is the same as cheating fact to face. if you are playing with someone online then you are no better than playing in reality.
2006-10-30 16:15:33 · answer #3 · answered by daggermouth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am a girl, sorry, but seriously you sound young if you are using myspace, so you probably won't be with that girl forever. If you are emailng girls saying "baby girl" and such, then you are not ready to settle down anyway with just this one girl. If that trust is gone, basically so is the relationship because a relationship is based on trust. What the girl wanted was revenge when she found all of the messages to other girls wanting to be with them, and like most girls...she got what she wanted....
2006-10-30 16:27:01 · answer #4 · answered by Mia Anne *6.6.09* 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you did the exact same thing to her. "Treat others the way you'd liek to be treated." Like you said "you planned to physically cheat on her" You did the exact samething. Who do you think you are? You have no right to be mad or upset about ths. You had it coming, it's called KARMA. Got it? Get it? Good. What do you mean "is there something you would want her to do for a better apology" Did you do a better job in apologizing than she did? I wouldn't think so highly of myself if I were you. Because you aren't, you're exactly as low as she is. Possibly even lower. Guys like you make me want to be a lesbian.
2006-10-30 16:25:51 · answer #5 · answered by Liliac 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this has kinda hap pend to me, but here it is straight forward, myspace is a bad thing, it can break ur relationships up so easy because of jealousy and other stuff
2006-10-30 16:26:08 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jeez, it's hard to say where you are comming from but I'll try to find out.
try for a moment to think that she is human lijke you wuith feelings and would like to be treated the same you would like to be treated.
What if it was you, how would you have wanted her to treat you?
2006-10-30 16:13:05 · answer #7 · answered by Trinity 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you just move on and forget about the whole thing.
2006-10-30 16:13:01 · answer #8 · answered by master_der_man 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you both sound too immature to be in a serious relationship, so if i were you i would just move on.
2006-10-30 16:26:00 · answer #9 · answered by jane 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's the guy's fault, not the girl's.
2006-10-30 16:25:51 · answer #10 · answered by Shane C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋