I have hundreds of fantasies about my wife - although some are extreme, even the tame ones she rejects.
She used to be wild BEFORE she got married - she did just about everything with old boyfriends.
I read in a magazine once..about a couple going through a sex "rut"....
They decided to write out their top 10 fantasies about each other - and the other spouse had to agree to do just ONE on the list.
Would this be a good way to get my wife to fulfil at least 1 fantasy??? I'm not trying to get her to do anything she has NOT done before....
If I'm willing to do anything she writes down -would this be fair??
2006-10-30 16:07:36 · 11 answers · asked by John M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
OOPS WRONG WHOLE!!!
2006-10-30 16:24:18 · answer #1 · answered by Desperado 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not sure how long you've been married, but sounds like your sex life may be in a rut. Have you tried to discuss with her your fantasies and hers? If so, and it didn't help, perhaps you can try to put some romance and excitement back into the marriage first, and then slowly reintroduce the fantasy subject.
2006-10-31 00:12:07 · answer #2 · answered by cricketfish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its great that you're so attracted to your wife and the reason that she doesn't want to play along is that she might not realize how much you think of her sexually. Talk to her, communicate that she turns you on so much that you want to make sex a really special occasion and would she mind playing along this small fantasy. Try to get her to write her 10 fantasies and see if you can fulfill a couple of hers first and then ask her to do vice versa.
2006-10-31 00:10:52 · answer #3 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sex in marriage is not about fulfilling fantasies. It's about communication and a mutual, monogamus relationship that is suppose to grow as you stay together and know each other better. Forcing your wife to perform something you want is very selfish. You should think about her feelings instead the best route to get what YOU want. That's not love, my friend. That's bullying. Get it straight or you might find yourself alone. Godloveya.
2006-10-31 00:21:26 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like some kind of power play is going on -- the more she denies you the more insistent you are for her to do it.
Who cares what she did prior to marrying you? That was her business and her past.
You sound bored in your marriage. Perhaps it's time for the two of you to go to counseling and find out what's really behind this power struggle.
2006-10-31 00:11:03 · answer #5 · answered by brilliantyetconfused 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Experiment on just fulfill her fantasies as well!
2006-10-31 00:13:12 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are so lucky to have wife look after your feeling, everybody wants to share with your fantasies, let me know too
2006-10-31 00:21:42 · answer #7 · answered by Neighbour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Man- I am with you. Once you figure this out please post the answer. I will be looking for it-this might make you a very popular individual with us married men.
2006-10-31 00:11:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about trying good old fashioned ROMANCE?!! It may be a great icebreaker into new things!
2006-10-31 00:11:28 · answer #9 · answered by gibbyguys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Broach it in a safe location and explain what it is you're doing and why.
If she rejects it, you respect her decision
2006-10-31 00:11:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
of course!!!! think of it as a genie granting you one wish
2006-10-31 00:10:41 · answer #11 · answered by wendysmmrs 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋