ok here is the situation-I used to be friends with a group of people. We will call the them the "get along gang". I am no longer friend with most of the people because I am not a fence rider and I speak my opinions and am always honest-(to the extent of telling things that people should know because it is seriously hurting their life). Well I have had a few accomplices from the "get along gang" in my truth telling escapades. Everyone in the group is mad at me. Their is even one girl who is going as far as telling lies about me and making people who I have been friends with well over 10 years doubt me as a friend. I have not spoken to most of these people in a year or so. I also sent out an e-mail apologizing for ever hurting anyone(in July) the one and only response I got was a nasty e-mail back, other than that nothing! My question is-should I just put these people behind me or should I try to mend these broken friendships even though I feel like I did nothing wrong?
2006-10-30 15:52:24 · 3 answers · asked by helloworld 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
A true friend is someone that will stick with you through all of the hard times you have. They are there to lift you up, not tear you down. If you don't believe that they are doing the right things and you have told them that and they have done nothing, then maybe they aren't the kind of friends that you want to be around. "friends" that will go behind your back and tell lies are not friends at all. Friends are people we trust, people that we could put our lifes on the line and we know that they would do the right thing because they respect you. Mending would not make these people your friends. They may take you back, but are they really your friends? What happens if something wrong happened? would they stick with you and help you through it or would they let you down again? It's not easy to turn your back on someone that you have hung out with a lot, but it's worht it if they aren't the right people that you are with. If they don't care for you, why should you care what they think? they aren't out there to help you, but to drag you down, don't let these people get to you. Friends that are true friends will believe what you say, if you tell your good friends the truth they will believe you. Good luck and I hope everything turns out. I know it's hard, i've been through it myself, but believe me, knowing you did the right thing is worth losing the "fake friends" and things seem to fall into place after, not right after, and it might seem hard, but it will all turn out, if you do what's right.
2006-10-30 16:05:40 · answer #1 · answered by Midian 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are many ways to speak truth. Its always good to speak it and in a polite way to make other understand. If you feel your 10 years old friendship is shaken then iit means either you or your friends are wrong. Its easy to leave things but hard to mend. In my opinion misunderstanding should be cleared mutually and then decide you wanna be with them or not.
Asking forgiveness is courageous of all actions. This puts others to think about you.
Good luck!
PS: Ask once more to your ownself....what went wrong? Listen to it carefully and follow it!
2006-10-31 00:08:55 · answer #2 · answered by Apoorvi . 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should evaluate the substance of your ex-friends. If you truly feel you didn't do anything wrong, then it's time to move on without these people in your life. Just be sure that you evaluate your actions in the past to be sure that you didn't hurt someone you care about. Sometimes the truth hurts, but not all people are prepared to hear it.
2006-10-30 23:56:30 · answer #3 · answered by cricketfish 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋