My ex-boyfriend and i been together for a little over 2 years. we usually break up then make up but this time it's different. he never came back. how can he say he love me one day and turn his cheek and pretend he never met me. how can he do this to me? we've been through so much together. he was my first love, my first for everything. i went wrong when i put my happiness & all of me on him. and now that everything is done & gone im just left here broken. ive spent everyday w/ him and slowly my friends began to drift away. i got nothing left. i left my friends for him. what a wrong decision. love makes you do crazy things. i was so blind. after we broke up it seems like he is having the time of his life. and for me? im striving to move on. how can i move on when everything remind me of him? every song on the radio everything i do or everywhere i go and everything i say. how am i suppose to move on...
2006-10-30 15:50:52 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Girl....this was me like last month. I too experienced this horrible feeling. IT SUCKS. And people will say time will make it go away, but it won't. Its a real feeling, its what makes us human, and we are weaker because we are women.
You will feel like crap for a while, you have to have someone to talk to, or write it down. Write all the crazy things you feel down, get them out of your head or they will just scream at you and drive you insane. Distract yourself with friends, exercise, homework, TV, something. Make yourself a CD of girl power music, nothing mushy.....JUST MOTIVATING MUSIC...but not that stupid PCD song about not needing a man. Its dumb.
But, look at yourself in the mirror and ask yourself it you are going to take control of the situation or "crack up". If you look at yourself, smile, pull your shoulders back, stand up straight, put on a cute outfit and go to mall, take a magazine, just hand out where other people are, don't seperate yourself, don't sleep too much, get out and you will move on. Not because you want to, because you have to. Don't even try to figure out why it didn't work, just accept that its over, and you have to be happy and you will be. Be glad that you had good times and that you expereined it and keep in mind that the best days are yet to come, by yourself or with whomever.
DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP for feeling sad, its life, sometimes it sucks, just write it down, get it out, and then try to stay busy with things that matter like family, friends, or school.
Trust me I still have weak moments, hell, like once a day, but if I push it out of my mind and tell myself he is missing a great thing...I feel better.
Sorry for your loss, but it will be okay if you make okay.
2006-10-30 16:14:57 · answer #1 · answered by Candace 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I went through a horrible 3-yr relationship breakup recently. Let me just say, you never really get "over it"..You just learn to deal with the pain of losing someone you love so dear. Time is an amazing thing- and yes, it does heal you one day at a time. As much as I would like to, I can't tell you that this journey will be an easy one. But I can tell you that this will be a journey that you will learn from. Allow yourself to grieve- you just lost someone who has been an important part of your life. Allow yourself time for you-Learn what makes YOU truly happy. Let this be an important milestone in your life. Also, know that this isn't the end of your happiness, but the beginning of a chance to really get to know the true you-wherever she is in there. Believe me, heartbreak is a terrible thing, but what amazing self-worth and confidence you'll have once you come out of this experience with your head high. Best of Luck to you!!!
2006-10-30 17:25:42 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
" Close Your Eye, listen all around you TOMMOROWW IS ANOTHER DAY "
There is no real easy way to move on, espeacially if this guy has made YOU feel like your his one and only. same for the way you feel about him. with all the time you two spent togther, its hard to easy to see why you would feel the way you do. its hard. I know . But there is always tommorow, and dont just think of this as a saying, its a TRUTH. Look at life this way , How many people live in our world? Billions upon millions. There are people from all over the world . YOu may be living here in a certain state but whats not to say you will end up with a handsome guy who treats you good, and is everything you wanted who comes from another state or country? heck what about another city? SO, from those billions, whats not to say that out of them thousands meet your catagory? and from there there are hundreds that are your PERFECT MATCH ? life goes on , everyday is a new day . You will never know who you will meet or heck who will meet YOU. Just keep your head and tell yourself "THERE IS SOMEO NE OUT THERE FOR ME, BECAUSE HEY THERE ARE BILLIONS OF PEOPLE JUST LIKE ME , LOOKING FOR SOMEONE LIKE ME TO BE WITH ! And about your ex guy.... if he does stuff like that too you, imagin however hes gonna feel with out you later on........ while your on abeach with some cool guy that loves you for who you are and you love him for what he is.
Hopes this helps. stay strong !
2006-10-30 16:24:30 · answer #3 · answered by GhostHunter4u 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It takes time to move on dont rush just take it day by day. As for your friends I am sure they seen something in your boyfriend that you didnt see because you were blinded by him but if they are good friends they will take you back and be there for you
But this happens to us all pretty soon before you know it you will be dating again and in love again but they say it takes half the time you were with them to move on so take your time
2006-10-30 15:59:03 · answer #4 · answered by J 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have reached a stage in life called maturity. Shake it off and move on. Doesn't it make you sick to hear women crying that they have been misused yet every night they walked or drove to the mans den?
Grow up, and move on with life, mourning will certainly not help here! Sorry!
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