My friend and I are 18. She has a brother who is 13 and a sister who is 16. My friend's mother sits on the computer all day emailing and chatting while the dad goes to work in the city, he has a well-paid job.
Recently, my friend's mother was invading her privacy and looking through her emails and IM contact list. My friend decided to pay her back and go through her emails. She found emails to a man by the name of "Steve" in America (we live in Australia) saying how they love each other and how her husband displeases her because he isn't very affectionate (or something along those lines). It says things about what time they should call each other and "phew, that was a close one" and quite clearly, she is having an on-line affair.
What should my friend do? It hurts her to see her dad working so hard every day and not knowing that his wife is a blob sitting at home cheating on him on the net.
2006-10-30 15:38:07 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
They went for a family holiday last year to america for a month!
This has been going on for a while.....
2006-10-30 15:48:06 · update #1
Your friend should print out the emails and give them to her father!
2006-10-30 15:40:16 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
It seems that your friends' mother is crying for attention that she is not receiving from her hubby. Thats pretty F-up that he goes to work hard for the family. I think its not a good idea for you to get involved because you don't need the drama. But I do understand your concern. Maybe its best if your friend who would need to confront her own mother and let her be aware that she does knows what going on. Now, I see that "Steve" is from America and you're down under..... don't ever think that there isn't a possibility those two could have met. The guy would probably fly over to see her but besides that she is having an affair and its not right her husband doesn't know. Its better to let someone know now in the family then later down the road b/c it can get worse. If her mother doesn't want the family to break apart then I suggest her mother needs to stop acting like a fool and become a responsible spouse or there will be hell. Trust me, I went thru it with my family and now my folks are divorce after 30 yrs of marriage. My dad cheated on my mom 3 times and even got one of them pregnant 2 times! I hope everything will work out alright. Good Luck!
2006-10-30 15:56:54 · answer #2 · answered by khmer_gurl_336 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Maybe suggest that the mother talk to the father about this. The mother should be reminded of her wedding vows and why she fell in love with the man. Everyone needs affection. Maybe look deeper and see what the father is doing outside the relationship? Suggest family counceling, that could fill the time instead of these e-mails.
2006-10-30 15:42:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
This poor woman is obsessed. She's got trouble in her marriage but instead of working it out, she's addicted to the fantasy of a virtual relationship thousands of miles away. Maybe a confrontation would work. Everyone that know about it gets right in her face and says "THIS IS GOING TO RUIN OUR LIVES!" She hasn't gotten that yet. Unless she gets shocked out of her complacency, it won't end. Eventually, her husband will find out. I'd go for the intervention. Too bad the child has to the parent here.
2006-10-30 17:37:03 · answer #4 · answered by SafetyDancer 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stay completely out of it. It has nothing to do with you and if you get involved you will look like the bad person. They live plenty of continents aways it is highly ulikly they will ever meet. I think between the both of them they know this problem exists. I think that it is there business and no one elses and privacy should have never been invaded in the first place.
2006-10-30 15:42:25 · answer #5 · answered by lovmen1 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
"she feels used for the previous 32 years.." What the heck is THAT? in keeping with possibility HE felt "USED" for the previous 32 years. Why are YOU interior the midst of all of it anyhow? in the event that they have been married for 32 years (happy or unhappy) they seem to have discovered a manner of coping and tolerating one yet another. stay sparkling and enable them to hash out their very own issues. STAND DOWN, you're purely agitating.
2016-11-26 20:20:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thats a bad situation... i wouldnt tell your mum that you know, but i would ask her about her feelings to your dad.
hey your in a tough situation. God bless you
2006-11-02 06:11:50 · answer #7 · answered by langstrumpf 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋