I just realized most of my misery happened because of the stupid negative things I said to girls I dated that which I regret always. I always do that with the girls I like but not the ones I don't like, go figure :( Anyone else go through similar experience?
2006-10-30 15:34:38 · 15 answers · asked by Believe me 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Very understandable. It is a piquant situation, not all of us are smart in saying the right things, even when we mean well
Speech is Silver, Silence is Golden.
Please read Emotional intelligence by Daniel Goldman,
also read "Don't say yes when you want to say no"
However, let us also not get into the habit of lowering our self-esteem. We mean well and we wish well for our beloveds.
Have confidence in that, and sooner or later, some girl will see through your innocence. Girls are generally more mature in these
Also work on your self-esteem, such sweet talk alone does not make a man. Good and intelligent girls can see through sweet talk pretty soon and can condone awkward talk, if they see a patter and see the good nature behind the awkward talk
Thus understand your limitations.
2006-10-30 15:39:41 · answer #1 · answered by rvsasi 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My grandmother used to say "Come back all I said" Its true that sometimes you end up giving the greatest speech you'll live to regret. You should read the book Verbal Judo, its exactly for people like us and it changed my life and the way I talk.
2006-10-30 15:42:42 · answer #2 · answered by DrSH 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i havent had that experience but if i only when you really like the girl it could be nerves. Relax and watch your mouth where possible think about what you want to say before you say it. Good Luck
2006-10-30 15:39:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
thinking helps you assemble your thoughts and select the best one. That is why you have two ears and one mouth, to listen more and talk less.
I do agree that not only for the most times but more so always, we ought to talk less. This was we cause less heartaches and dissapointments.
2006-10-30 15:38:14 · answer #4 · answered by Trinity 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Haven't you ever heard that old saying about be sure that your brain is in gear before you start your mouth in motion........if you keep your mouth closed people might well assume that you are not stupid... but sometimes we open it and remove all that doubt..............
2006-10-30 16:04:42 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Old saying says "Think twice before speak" will make everything sure, and no regret
2006-10-30 15:58:07 · answer #6 · answered by Neighbour 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
dont be stupid man you said what you said do two the defenceive function that is designed to protect you from women that you have problems with on the subconcouse lev. it was for the best of both of your worlds.
2006-10-30 15:40:13 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
that is life...... we get angry, toungue tied, embarrased, etc., and out pops the brain, to wait on the out side of the skull...... rofl, I think it is just a joke that is played to keep us on our toes !!! but, seriously, dont worry, we have all open our big mouths and lived to regret it.... and hopefully we get better at it as we grow up, and sometimes not....... God bless
2006-10-30 15:43:27 · answer #8 · answered by Annie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Do you love your Mom? Clearly you don't if you disrespect women. However you treat your mom is how you will treat your woman/wife. Get it together Be slow to answer and quick to listen. Smooches.
2006-10-30 15:41:12 · answer #9 · answered by Desi H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because your trying to make that person perfect not the girls that you don't like. Alot of people do it.
2006-10-30 15:39:50 · answer #10 · answered by Tommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋