Okl, there is this dude that i like and i am sure he likes me bakc. (Pretty sure.) anyway the reason why i dont think he comes onto me is because i have a girlfriend. i don't really like her like that but she likes me a lot, a WHOLE lot. should i stick with her and make her happy or what. she is kind of suicidal and if i break up with her, i am afraid she wil you know...
2006-10-30 15:27:21 · 16 answers · asked by Nathan M 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It isn't wrong to put someone else's happiness before your own... unless doing so is not in your own best interest. Even without considering the guy you like, you say that you don't really like your girlfriend. I dated a guy that seemed to be suicidal, but I soon learned that he did it for the attention. If it were me, I would break up with her and also tell her parents so they can keep an eye on her.
2006-10-30 15:35:40 · answer #1 · answered by χριστοφορος ▽ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you're afraid you might hurt her, be careful what you do. SLOWWLY ease out of the relationship. Don't pretend you love her one day and the next dump her. Over a period of weeks, kind of let on that things have changed. But do make it noticable. I had a boyfriend who never even really broke up with me. After a month of him acting a little differently, I asked him about it and he just kind of assumed we weren't together anymore. What I'm saying is, he only pretended because i liked him so much, and it made things worse in the long run. Have the decency to break up with her, and then if she doesn't hate you, be a good friend and WATCH HER CLOSELY. If she shows any of the signs of suicide, tell someone IMMEDIATELY. Make sure she knows that you like her enough to care whether she lives or dies. And wait a little while for the guy to come around, you'll make the chick feel like she's being replaced.
2006-10-30 16:00:39 · answer #2 · answered by butterflypancakes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ultimately, it will be your decision. Think of it this way, though. If the other guy likes you, then you would be making two people (you and him) happy at the expense of one person. If there is a possible way to tell your girlfriend you don't like her like that anymore, then I'd go for it. Even if she may be suicidial, that doesn't mean that you have to take the weight of the world on your shoulders. Make sure to be there for her (I'm assuming you still like her as a friend) and let her know that you won't leave her- just that your sexual preferences are different.
2006-10-30 15:32:42 · answer #3 · answered by vtpoetchic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well honestly if you're gay you shouldn't have a girlfriend if you're a guy right? BUT you only live once so don't stay with the girl to make her happy. If she's suicidal tell her family but thats not your problem. When I was going through a divorce my ex would call me weekly saying I don't want to live anymore I'm going to end it blah blah & everytime he did that I'd call the police to handle it. DONT FALL FOR IT if you do shes be sticking around for years
2006-10-30 16:53:10 · answer #4 · answered by gitsliveon24 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she finds out that you 'don't like her like that' she'll be heartbroken, especially if she finds out in a year's time or even longer as she'll feel as though that year or whatever has been wasted and wasn't real! Plus she'll not like the fact that you prefer a guy to her.
Anyway, I must stop rambling on. If you don't like her like that there's nothing you can do apart from break up with her. There's no point in being stuck in a rut just cos she's suicidal. She needs help if she's really like that, and you sticking by her as a mate, nothing more, is the best you can offer her.
2006-10-30 15:35:08 · answer #5 · answered by ©Wayne© 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to somehow let her go...if she's this bad now your relationship with her will only deteriorate....She sounds like she could use some help...maybe you could help her get some...but as far has your happiness is concerned...do what makes you happy...don't live your life trying to make someone else happy by lying...it won't work and it will catch up with you big time.
2006-10-30 15:31:19 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Always be with someone who loves you and not someone you love...if you make her happy, God will give you contentment..what if you've got the wrong impression about the dude..you'll end up having no one..however, at the end of the day, your happiness matters
2006-10-30 17:35:01 · answer #7 · answered by innocence 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are questioning your sexuality you need to leave her and move on to a place where you can figure it out.
Never, no matter if straight or GLBT, stay with someone because they threaten suicide. Tell their parents, or report them to a school counselor or to the police. Then move on.
2006-10-30 15:44:40 · answer #8 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't love her no one will be happy. You will come to resent her & the relationship will deteriorate prolonging the final good-bye. It would be kinder to cut it off.
No one is responsible for anyone else's happiness & you can't make anyone happy in the long run if you yourself aren't.
2006-10-30 15:55:41 · answer #9 · answered by Judith 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the longer you keep her thinking that you love her will wind up hurting her more.if she finds out that you don't like her as much as she thinks you do she will be crushed more than braking up with her
2006-10-31 08:07:17 · answer #10 · answered by melissa m 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋