I have been married for seven years and me and my husband need some passion in our lives. Everything seems so boring and he annoys me a lot of the time. I need to have our romance kicked up a notch. I need help!
2006-10-30 15:19:39 · 21 answers · asked by Allison W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Listen to how other women talk fondly about him. It would help you to remember what you first saw in him.
Find a new interest together, boating, motorcycles, karaoke. Start dressing very attractively, even at home. Change your hair. Go to the gym. Buy him more attractive clothes. He'll catch on and start doing the same for you. Kiss him at random but don't be pushy. Show him that you're still a hottie but he'll have to chase you. Cook his favorite meals. Find new favorite meals. You can't tell him to change, but if you change, he'll reciprocate. The onus is on you to make the first changes. Find sappy movies that show how people get back their spark and have him watch it with you. There's one with Bruce Willis and Michelle Pfeiffer. I don't remember the name. It's a good "let's rekindle" movie. Stop wearing underwear. At least one night a week, make the kids eat first and leave before you and him eat. Avoid situations where he can annoy you. i.e., if his driving is irritating, then you volunteer to drive. Make up some good excuse why. Use more positive words and less (or no) negative words. Travel to the caribbean but on a trip where you don't have enough free time to get on each others nerves.
Finally, get him to hear some guy talk about you as if you are the object of his desire. Us guys usually start valuing what we have more when we know others want it.
2006-10-30 15:49:25 · answer #1 · answered by diesel_pusher2 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-21 00:53:05 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its good that you've decided to make the effort. The best romance tips include communicating more, going out on dates, watching movies together, going for picnics, spending time doing things that you both like, improving your sex life with new positions, harmless sex toys, new lingerie and taking weekend getaways. Romance can also be fuelled by relaxing together, a long drive in the country etc. Good luck.
2006-10-30 15:40:01 · answer #3 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not being silly r anything but i thinkyou need to introduce some play equipment. try out a vibrater. they are awsome it better when the guys uses it on you. all guys are turned on by that. and garenteed you will be t after you get used to it. or maybe just go out and do it somewhere naughty it always geta a laugh. and by the sounds of your situation you need to go out and have a little fun. change thing up so you dont do the same thing all the time. trust me if i did the same thing every night i'd get borad to. be dareing. talk naughty. play with other sex toys. garrenteed this will help
2006-10-30 15:25:55 · answer #4 · answered by boo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try doing things like going away for a holiday that forces you to talk, like somewhere a bit remote. Or try doing something new together, like taking up a hobbie or a class. It will make you spend time together that isn't about the daily grind. Then hopefully you will find what it was that made you fall in love.
2006-10-30 15:22:25 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's a joint venture here. Communication is the key. Talk to him and let him know. Here is one I heard. Everyone has a "love tank". Figure out what gets him going such as touch, time, gestures, words, or gifts. Or a combination of the above. Then figure out yours. Once you both have an understanding then you can move from there.
2006-10-30 15:37:42 · answer #6 · answered by Tommy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They say thee 7th year of marriage is the most difficult.
Try to imagine that this is your first week together and act like it.
Do exactly the same things you where doing in the beginning to seduce him!
It'll bring a fresh breeze to your couple
2006-10-30 15:31:43 · answer #7 · answered by Just a cool and simple Girl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be unavaible and/or seem exciting to him (see unavailable.) The problem is, being too unavailable can lead to him cheating. So you have to be exciting which creates jealousy.
But course, not too much...so maybe getting new hobbies, meeting new people, volunteering etc might do the trick. Good luck!
2006-10-30 16:19:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go for a vacation and see if there is any change in ur attitudes during that period. If yes, learn the art of relaxation.
2006-10-30 15:23:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go away together and do something that you have never done before. Experience something exciting and new for the first time.
2006-10-30 18:06:28 · answer #10 · answered by blackbuck 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋