Friends are being so mean!!!?

Question

Me and 4 other guys that are all my "friends" are being so mean to me and I don't know why also some people who are not really my friends. No one wants to be my partner in four square or many other sports. After school on like Fridays they never invite me to the mall then a sleepover. IT's hard for me to make new friends in school because I have a really bad reputation for what I did last year everyone thinks I am gay when I am not. And they think I did stuff I did not. One of my other friends starts rumors about me how I am weak and can't lift a 12 lb weight. When I can!!!!!! It is so annoying and all my other friends are scared of him so they agree with him! Any ideas on how to get some more girls to like me and make everyone like me and be my partner in fur square and other sports? PLEASE HELP!!!

Answer 1

okay, you know what? fu** those mean kids! u deserve to be treated better than that. those kids aren't ur friends. the best thing to do is try to talk to those haterz and see if they understand u. always be urself- ALWAYS. if ppl don't accept u for who u are then forget about them. try to explain that u DID NOT do those things they think u did. i kno, i kno- it's easier said than done, but u have to give it a try. what have u got to lose by just trying to reconcile with these ppl? just remember to be true to urself and who u r inside. u r a very special person and no one deserves to be treated the way those kids treat u. also try talking to ur dad or teachers or any other trusted adult in ur life that can give u good advice. good luck sweetie and don't let those haters get u down. they're gonna try their best to hurt u and get u worked up- anything to bring u down. don't be concerned with people who prey on hurting ur feelings. they're so sad. get them haters out ya circle- cuz they'll smile in ur face and talk about u behind ur back. don't let fools like that knock ya hustle playa. good luck...

Answer 2

First of all, these are not really your friends. If they were, they'd stand by you. They're players, because they may feel that they don't have alot of self confidence themselves. People with low self confidence have a need to make other people feel low. A good friend would stand by you. Stand strongly, and don't show these people that their actions bother you, even though they do. Make new friends; have a girls and guys get together at your house, and only invite these other "friends," them once they've treated you with greater respect. Most important of all, do not return the sorts of treatment that they're dishing you. That only lowers yourself to their level. You may even want to address the issues head on by saying, " I know what people think of me, about what they thought happened, but it simply never did happen. It's too bad that people need something interesting to talk about even when it's not true, how boring is that?" Then carry on confidently; don't worry about the 12 lb weight; you sound pretty young, and your development compared to some other boys your age won't even out to be the same until you're all older. Most importantly be yourself. You'll always know who your true friends are. The nicest, most successful boy in our grade 3 through 8 class, was Brian, who everyone thought was a "fairy," at the time. Now he's a gorgeous, world-class, very successful computer geek; and guess what? He did not lose himself, and the sense of who he was and how he should act, on his rise to the top. He's as nice today as he was in grade school. Good luck. Chin up, and show self confidence always.

Answer 3

Kids can be annoying at any age . Don't let them know they are getting to you , because when you call attention to yourself you become the target for their immaturity . It's how they pump themselves up .They don't really sound like true friends . If they want to pull Pee Wee Herman jokes on you , joke right back . When they call you weak-say "I know you are , but what am I "? No matter what they say to insult you -repeat that . Either they'll laugh along with you -or get sick of hearing it . In either case they'll eventually knock it off .Try to use humor for those times instead of making yourself a target . When you quit being hurt they can't hurt you . Good luck . This too shall pass .

Answer 4

Tell a teacher or adult you are comfortable with. I know this may be hard, but trust me, I went through some kind of the same problems and that helped alot when I thought they wont. If the guy teases you for telling, tell again. That will keep him from that. Even better, write a note to HIS parents telling you what has been going on. Unless he has careless parents, then I gurantee that he will not be mean to you ever again. Hope everything gets ok!

Answer 5

Take them all off your friends' list. If they don't apologize, leave them off. Otherwise they'll keep abusing you. Maybe let it slip they're ******* for hanging out with him.

Otherwise, ignore them. Concentrate on your own projects and find some non-judgemental, good people to hang out with. Make it clear you won't have anything to do with backstabbing people.

Seriously, you'll feel better about yourself in the long run, it's better to be alone than endure abusive people.

Answer 6

Stop caring about what other people think, by involving yourself with your activities. If you have something more important, they'll want what you have instead of you wanting the perceived value as you seein them as more important, which forces them to push you away. Get something better and cooler yourself, and be true about it, don't fake. Truly find something better than them and eitherway whether they come back or not is irrelevant for you have something better. They'll come though, they always do.

Answer 7

Four square? you must be a young buck, how cute. Well if you want everyone to appreciate you I think you should be more confident in yourself and not be all "wimpy." Do what you can do best and let them see that. Don't let them walk all over you. I bet there are plenty of people out there with your qualities that would be a great friend to you.

Answer 8

Confront your "friends". Tell them you dont appreciate the way they treat you. Stand up for yourself. Dont be afraid of this other boy that picks on you. Just be yourself, be proud to be yourself. When you're confident in yourself other people will notice and want to be around you because that confidence and good mood rub off on other people.

Answer 9

first of all, u posted in the wrong category.
anyway, just try to act like u don't care what the other guy says. but don't act "macho" or like "mr. tough guy". and i'd try making new friends? there must be some1 out there who doesn't know your rep. when they do get to know u, they'll know the rumors are rumors.

Answer 10

Just Be Yourself... ignore those guys.. and find a friend that loves you for who you are...