2006-10-30 14:56:13 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
This is a situation that I would have to sit down with her,and have many long open talks with her about her choices,how she is feeling,about the consequences of any choice that she may make,and the feelings that she may experience through any choice that she may make.At the end of the day,the final decision would have to be hers,as it is her body,and her feelings,and her situation.All I could do for her in this situation is support her,no matter what her choice is(whether I like it or not)and give and show her lots of unconditional love.
2006-10-30 17:07:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are the parent here!!! If your 12 year old is pregnant and you keep the baby, you will be raising it as your own pretty much. Are you ready for that? Also if you keep it your daughter will constantly be reminded of what happened to her. She will relive that rape over and over and over again. Everytime she looks at that baby she will see nothing but her attacker. If you are not comfortable with an abortion, adoption is the best way to go. Asking you daughter what she wants to do is not the answer. She is too young to make that kind of decision. You and your husband need to make that decision.
2006-10-31 15:12:28 · answer #2 · answered by titakay2004 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What happened to your daughter is tragic, don't prolong the tragedy by putting her through the experience of pregnancy. Abort and let her begin to heal from what she has already been through. She is not prepared both psychologically or physically to deal with both rape and having to deliver a life into this world that is the result of something so horrific as a rape child. Children should be the result of a love, not violence. What kind sadists are these pro-lifers that would impose their personnal beliefs onto the life and future of a 12 yr old girl after suffering such a devastating experience. Disgusting. Abort and move onto regaining your life.
2006-10-31 01:34:53 · answer #3 · answered by Chris T 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
to be honest with you most of the time when I hear this story the girl has the baby and the whole family is sworn to secracy and the baby is raised as the parents. I.E. Jack Nickleson his mother was a teen mother and he was raised as his birthmothers brother.
But if you decied to go that route def. take her to an OBGYN to make sure that wont harn her to much physically because at her age abortion she definately would be able to take emotionally I'm 18 and my friends even older than me cant emotionally handle that. Or you could put the baby up for adoption so she doesnt have to look at that "reminder" every day.
But also ask her when it's all said and done.
I hope everything turns out for the best I'm a rape survivor myself.
2006-11-02 01:31:17 · answer #4 · answered by Kaliana D 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Give the baby up for adoption or abort. She is only 12 and can't take care of a child. And kids should be born out of love
2006-10-30 23:48:17 · answer #5 · answered by LITTLE 1 :o) 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I think you and your daughter should definitely talk about it. Being raped at 12, she'll need a lot of support and therapy.
It should be an agreement. Think about the long run though. Wouldn't it be difficult to have a child born under those circumstances?
You two should consider everything and make a decision, above all things together.
2006-10-31 14:38:09 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
That would be a very difficult thing to deal with. I am against abortion but I would have to talk to my daughter and see what she feels is right. My choice would be to keep the baby,It's not the baby's fault how it got there just a result. My main concern would be my daughter's well being whether or not she could safely give birth. But still the final say would be hers.
Now about the rapist! kill the SOB!
2006-10-30 23:16:09 · answer #7 · answered by Jo 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is so tuff, because I am pro life & want to say give up for adoption or rase myself, but how much trauma can you put a 12 year old through, child birth is not ment for children. I do not know, I hope I would never have to make a decision like that.
2006-10-30 23:00:17 · answer #8 · answered by notAminiVANmama 6 · 4⤊ 2⤋
Talk to your daughter about that but personally I would keep it because if you put it up for adoption you will regret it.good luck!!
2006-10-30 23:22:42 · answer #9 · answered by lashaeca912 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would keep the baby, no matter how it happened that is still my grandchild, has my blood running through his veins, I could never give a child for adoption, and abortion is out of the question, I could never take that decision for my daughter, abortion is a very personal decision and 12 years old is too young to take that kind of decision, considering all the mental damage this has (even though I am Pro-choice).
2006-10-30 23:03:58 · answer #10 · answered by fun 6 · 1⤊ 6⤋