has a wife and two kids the kids that are in school, He paid for her to go to school. she obtanined a CPA and wont work. his school was postpoaned for her. in the last 2 years he has filed for bankruptce and is now working 3 jobs just to keep his family afloat. she sits around geting fat. what would you say to my friend?
2006-10-30 14:35:42 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She sounds depressed. I'd tell the "friend" to lovingly try to engage her in outside activities, like walking or sports. I'd also advise him to lovingly suggest a trip to the doctor to rule out physical causes.
2006-10-30 14:46:09 · answer #1 · answered by shojo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him he needs to give her an ultimatum. It's a good thing for one of the parents to stay at home and always have someone taking care of the house and kids when possible. But when a family's finances are becoming critical (as they sound in this case if he's working three jobs), both people need to step up to the plate and do everything they can to improve the situation. Someone with a CPA could bring in at least an extra 30 grand a year. So, he needs to tell her she's either going to help, or she can hit the friggin' road because he can't do it alone anymore. (And just a side note, she probably doesn't really love him if he's already working 3 jobs and she won't do anything...I work fulltime and so does my husband-he works up to 70 hours a week sometimes, there is NO WAY I'd let him get a 2nd job, it would be me because he's already exhausted working the extra 20-30 hours a week). Best wishes to your friend!
2006-10-30 22:42:30 · answer #2 · answered by no one 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Not a darn thing. Although many see the problem, the one involved in it is stuck. No amount of trying to talk sense into him is going to work until he makes up his own mind.
My advice is MYOB!
2006-10-30 23:17:15 · answer #3 · answered by Slimsmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is their problem, dude. You maybe a friend but you do not know the ins and outs of their situation. WHo knows...maybe they had an agreement.
In other words, keep your nose out of their lives and mind your own business.
2006-10-30 22:39:12 · answer #4 · answered by alandicho 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nothing...it's his wife and if you try to say something it might ruin your relationship with your friend. She is lazy and I am sure he is aware of this, so having his friend tell him what he should do is not going to help anything. This is one of those things I think he has to do on his own.
2006-10-30 22:38:23 · answer #5 · answered by tiffany m 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would boot her out the door, she can work atleast a job.no need for the guy to work 3 jobs. they must all be low paying jobs.
2006-10-30 23:10:57 · answer #6 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok ya this is wrong finally a question i agree with hhmmm.. tell him she is lazy and getting to fat lol... but dont take this situation and turn it on all woman and i hope its not about you although it would make sense with all the questions.. **hugs** looks like you need one
2006-10-31 07:00:39 · answer #7 · answered by t_ibrahim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would tell him he need to do something because it is not healthy for what he is doing. He needs to tell his wife to get off her *** and get a job. because it is not right for him to work and not her.
2006-10-30 22:38:36 · answer #8 · answered by jessicaball2003 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That he should do something about it...instead of watch his whole family freakin fall apart?!
2006-10-30 22:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by 1 Sailor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sucks to him (although I believe this story is about you)!
2006-10-30 22:37:57 · answer #10 · answered by Rachel 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋