me and my husband have been together 10 years married for 2, and we have 2 children together. we have had our issues in the past but we have gotten through them together and fought hell a hard to be together, we are in love but , I don't feel that tingling sensation when he kisses me or touches me anymore, when we are trying to get intimate and when he kisses me i don't get turned on. what can i do to fix this?, this has been going on for 5 years, and i had enough!
2006-10-30 14:33:54 · 11 answers · asked by princessa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Somtimes we have to the imppossible to get our lives back on track, with two kids and I'm sure you both have jobs life can be hectic, I would suggest a night a private night, no kids, no stress, alone romantic, bring back old times when you dated things you know will remind you of the reasons why you are together. Even if means getting away for a weekend, somtimes we get caught up in our daily lives we forget about how much attention and love our spouses need. I would suggest celebrating a special occasion or whatever the case. Surprise him wear somthing sexy do somthing SPONTANIOUS be teenagers again. He'll love it and so will you..GOOD LUCK!
2006-10-30 16:09:10 · answer #1 · answered by ~* Pink Princess *~ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That buttflies in the stomach feeling of being in love is replaced over time with security and and sense that someone really knows and loves you, the good and the bad. The effort you make to reconnect is up to you two. Do someting you used to in the old days, or try something new. People change, and it's hard to keep up with your partner if you don't check in now an again. Don't worry about sex being fantastic in the beginning, but rebuild a sense of intimacy that will bring you closer. That's when the fireworks begin again. Ditch the kids with family and have a night alone at home with candles and music, bubble bath, massage oils... nothing nuts, but once you get that intimacy back, you may find that the guy you've been with all this time is looking sexy again... then get a little adventurous and have fun!
2006-10-30 22:47:04 · answer #2 · answered by bigwheeler19 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So... you married your husband for sex. And now... the sex ain't what it use to be.
Well, guess what? Your love has matured just like you have. This is when you discover your lover, your husband, is... your best friend.
Maybe your aren't going to have that fantastic sex you used to have as often as you had it. It happens... but don't think your going to find it with someone else if you leave him now...
Like the excellent advice given above. Think about the good times. The best kiss he ever gave you... and tell him when that was. The best sex you ever had with him... and tell him why it was. And he should do the same.
Find time for just each other. No distractions. And enjoy one another because live is to short.
Later,
2006-10-30 22:57:39 · answer #3 · answered by BeArPaW_4709 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Think of the "old days" and how you used to get turned on. Ask him to do the same things he's done to you in the past. Hopefully you'll get your 'sensation' back. =D
2006-10-30 22:35:23 · answer #4 · answered by 1 Sailor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my heart goes out to you, but i know what it's like to be in your husbands position. to keep loving on some one special to you and wandering why they don't act like they used to, don't kiss like they used to, don't even hold your hand anymore. don't leave him like my boyfriend did me. you can fight this one out. i once read an article in a National Geographic catalogue about love. it said that if you just sit down and stare into your spouse's eyes for about five minutes, you'll learn to love him again. i never got that chance, but its been scientifically proven to work. of course, love, i think, had nothing to do with facts. it's a burning of the heart, that yes, can sometimes be like going through hell. if you let that fire die out, who knows what will happen. stick it out girl and really try! Good luck!
2006-10-30 22:44:15 · answer #5 · answered by Renee Gibson 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try getting some time to yourselves. Maybe their are other issues that would be causing you to shut your feeling out. If you were attracted to him then you are attracted to him. If you arechoosing not to pay attention to those feelings then you need to figure out why.
2006-10-30 22:37:42 · answer #6 · answered by Becky 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im sure he feels the same. ask him if he feels the same way that he always has when hes with you. if not then just tell him that this weekend you want to do something really romantic. just you and him and tell him you want to bring back some old feelings. he should understand
2006-10-30 22:37:34 · answer #7 · answered by Amyscastle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to think about him as the first time you met, and you will have same feeling back, I have the same problem
2006-10-30 23:17:45 · answer #8 · answered by Neighbour 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try making some effort. Remember you made a commitment? If you're bored, it's your own fault and no one else's. How immature.
2006-10-30 22:38:52 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
reinvent him. take him shopping for outrageous hawaiian shirts and sexy undies.
2006-10-30 22:36:26 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋