He keeps lying and acts like he don't want help no matter what no one does and i'm tired what shoyuld I do?
2006-10-30 14:16:20 · 11 answers · asked by Desi H 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My Husband went from weed to ice?
2006-10-30 14:32:27 · update #1
i think you know what you should do hon. go ahead and go. tell him to go to rehab and let him know that you might be there if he gets real help and stays straight and sober.
2006-10-30 14:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by beckdawgydawg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say stay and give it a chance if he at least acted like he wanted to try to overcome his problem. It sounds like you have probably been dealing with this for a long time. And if things haven't changed, think about if they're ever really going to ... think about the lifetime of this you will have to deal with ... it is easier and less painful for everyone to leave sooner rather than later. And even if things might change, think about the heartache and exhaustion you are going through in the meantime. If he loved you, he would realize this. I understand that a drug addiction can be extremely hard to overcome - I have major clinical depression, so I definitely understand how things can get out of control - but it is possible, with the proper help. It sounds to me like he loves his drugs more than he loves you. Leave him, get him into rehab, and if he does overcome his problem someday, then give him another chance. But it sounds to me like he has run out of chances with you. And it sounds harsh, but sometimes a person really does need to hit rock bottom before they can get better, so you may even be helping him, if you want to think of it that way.
2006-10-30 14:33:33 · answer #2 · answered by Julie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
trust me, been there, done that also, if you really love him get him some help anyways, you may have to leave him temporarily to open his eyes, but he definately needs help or your marriage will not survive this,my marriage went to hell after fourteen years same scenario, but there were other factors involved to which were related to the METH. I have been clean for a little over a year and see things a whole differently now but that doesn't change the past and the damages that are still being dealt with. Good luck, if you have some real good friends have them put the pressure on him or ask them for a counseling reference
2006-10-30 14:40:13 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hi I am so sorry I know exactly how you feel. My husband was also on drugs. I didn't know it at first because i had never done any drugs in my life. I thought that if I did them with him he would stay home more but i was wrong. He finally came around when i left. Of course we both opted to take outpatient rehab together and it was hard to leave him but if you stay you become an enabler. Tell him he needs time to straighten his life out and to realize that he does not need drugs in his life because they will cost him his life and his wife. GOOD LUCK! let me know how things turn out if you are comfortable with it. sunnietiffin@yahoo.com
2006-10-30 14:35:02 · answer #4 · answered by sunnietiffin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
think you should have a talk with him,set some boundaries, tell him how much this is hurting you, tell him that there are consequences for this, and than it's up to him what he chooses to do.if he chooses to keep doing the drugs than you don't have much of a future to look forward to,and u have to move on.his wrong choices are taking its toll on your marriage. who could really be happy with a man who has a drug problem?
2006-10-30 14:27:17 · answer #5 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do you really love him? Remember your oaths when you married? Are you believe that you are strong enough? Take him to rehab center, stick with him always. Promise him that you'll always be at his side no matter what, believe in him, yourself and God that it will turn Ok in the end. Positive thinking, always.
2006-10-30 14:34:00 · answer #6 · answered by pinkshirt 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Drugs are a horrible thing. They waste money and take away from the family. You already know that he needs to get help, you can always have him arrested for possession.
2006-10-30 14:23:35 · answer #7 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
ive been married to a druggie for 10 years he finally ended up in jail (felony drug conviction he his self done i never got him in trouble) he hit rock bottom now hes getting off drugs because hes in jail for a year swears hell never do it again i will give him 1 more shot but no more love is difficult when they use drugs but ill always love him if he never hit rock bottom hed still be useing your man will hit his rock bottom and wake up soon enough if you love him try to get him in rehab or hell wind up in jail sometimes they hate you for trying to help them mine said he wished hed listened to me before now he knows how much i really love him i will be here when he gets out and ill help keep him clean
2006-10-30 14:38:18 · answer #8 · answered by angela s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is just smoking pot then just let it go...
If he is doing hard / addictive drugs then you should
probably do something about it...
2006-10-30 14:29:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
let him go. Because you don't need the mental anguish. Be strong and move on.
2006-10-30 14:25:47 · answer #10 · answered by s_reneeus 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋