School teacher want my 4-1/2 year old kick out to go pre-school again.?

Question

As per teacher, my kid is very good in learning, but is not mature enough.

Can school throw my child out?

Answer 1

Many bright preschoolers are not mature enough to start school. Intelligence and maturity are two different things. (Many ten year olds are smart enough to grasp the mechanics of driving a car - would you want them driving down the road though?) The teacher is doing your child a favor, although it may not seem like it now. Too many parents push their children before they are socially ready. In one year not only will your child be the brightest in class but the most mature.

Answer 2

"Very good in learning" What does that mean exactly? Perhaps your child is quite bright and bored silly with the routine of preschool.
I disagree with some people who want to combine maturity with intelligence. SOMETIMES there is another cause to the child's acting out. Without more details, I can't guess exactly what the problem is, but I do know that my son was told the same thing but ended up being very bright. I put him in charter school- smaller and he didn't have so many rough boys around, so he did better. Also it turned out he acted out because he knew all that math and letters and was bored.
My daughter pushed kids that didn't obey the teacher but was told she was too immature to go on to kindergarten until her behavior improved. I took her out too, found a small program with kindly, loving teachers who were like grandmothers and she thrived.They were very experienced and knew how to talk to her. I don't believe retaining kids helps them to mature.
So, get more details from the teacher. If your child needs help controlling his/her behavior, then it behavior- not learning. Two separate things.

Answer 3

As soon as your child is the appropriate age to begin public school, then the public school has a legal obligation to provide an appropriate education. If it is a private school program, they can do what they want and you have little recourse. Private school programs often go to great lengths to protect the safety of the majority of the children enrolled. They do not have to put up with behavior problems, biters, and the like. It's just the nature of the systems.

Answer 4

Maturity and social skills are a must to be ready for kindergarten. If he/she is really struggling in this area it might be wise to hold your child back until he/she is ready. Request a meeting to discuss what else can be done, including the chance to put it off for awhile.