for a woman who has been cheated on to get over the scorn and anger, especially if she has chosen to get her revenge and cheat also prior to a divorce, even has gone as far as moving the cheating partner in with her, and claims she has not done a damn thing wrong
2006-10-30 13:39:29 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
it's something you never get over,but it's best to just forgive it, not for his sake or because he did nothing wrong, but to free yourself. we don't forgive because we still feel our partner owes us an apology or needs to feel bad about the hurt he caused us, but in reality we are expecting from someone who is not willing to be sorry, who feels they were justified. to set ourselves free we just forgive, by expecting nothing more from this person.to seek revenge just hurts you not the other person. revenge just backfires on you.
2006-10-30 13:48:36 · answer #1 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yeh for her she did not do a damn thing wrong!!!!!! hell have no fury like a women scorn. I never got over my ex cheating we have been divorced many YEARS now it's been nearly 9 years ago he cheated still burns me up. He acted hurt that he cheated he tried to act like he was the one done wrong LOL.
2006-10-30 21:46:14 · answer #2 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I believe one never truely gets over being cheated on by a spouse. However two wrongs do not make a right and by cheating herself to get even all she is doing is sending a message to her spouse "Look I am wanted as well". Sad. Because when one cheats the only person they are cheating is themselves. When one loses faith and trust in their spouse I do not bel;ieve anything can be done to make that person truely trust again.
2006-10-30 21:45:04 · answer #3 · answered by DEE L 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
even if you do it, your hurt won't go away. Hurt only goes away when you accept the fact that your dream and reality does not match, and that your esteem of yourself is gone. The sooner you act to move on the better, time alone will not heal it, action does. You need to move out of your environment, and be a different person, or have different stimuli coming into your brain, the sooner that happens the sooner you get out of the emotional hole you are in now.
2006-10-30 21:43:29 · answer #4 · answered by curious 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you've already attempted revenge by cheating then you will never completely get over it
2006-10-30 21:41:15 · answer #5 · answered by c f 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm a guy I've cheated quit a bit I know it takes weeks to get over it
2006-10-30 21:42:44 · answer #6 · answered by DoingItRight! 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
that all depends on how much control you are willing to let him have over you. I think you should not give him the satisfaction of your pain, in regards to his betrayal. Hes a loser, just like my husband who i walked in on with another woman in bed naked. Can you believe this, he says he hasn't cheated, because they did not have intercourse! what a loser!
2006-10-30 21:50:30 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the woman sounds like it will take her a long time
2006-10-30 21:42:08 · answer #8 · answered by Douglas R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
umm it can take a long time... some people never get over and like spy and stuff on there new boyfriends because they have been so hurt. i always tell my boyfriend if he even holds hands with another girl then i will dump him because you should be treated with respect every girl should. it might take forever you never know
2006-10-30 21:42:21 · answer #9 · answered by courtney5839 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've been remarried for over four years and it still hurts me when I think about what my ex husband did. I don't know how long it will take for you, but I'm still not done.
2006-10-30 22:09:36 · answer #10 · answered by sexmagnet 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋