I am 19 and me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years. We are definitely serious and when we talk about our futures we definitely include eachother in them. we aren't planning on getting married until after college but a lot of adults say that we might break up because we'll realize that we havent had a lot of experience and i want to think that it's possible to be with someone forever when you havent been with other people. we're also virgins and im worried about how that fits in--whether it will make us stronger, or make us want to experience it with others also..please give me some reassurance
2006-10-30 13:35:35 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
The fact that the two of you are virgins is a good thing. When the two of you do do the deed, you'll both think eachother is the greatest. I am married now to someone i grew up with since i was nice. We both went to college and we have four kids together. Depends on how strong and committed the two of you are two eachother. There will be a lot of tests, but if your relationship is truley strong, you two will do great. Just remember to be patient and understanding. No One is perfect. Good Luck to the two of you.
2006-10-30 13:39:28 · answer #1 · answered by amandaped25 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
My husband and I began dating in high school when we were both 16. We married at 21, only having dated each other. We're still together today, but I can't help thinking that there are a lot of experiences we should have had during those "growing-up years" that we didn't because we made our teen-age relationship the focus of our lives. Our marriage has gone through some very difficult times, as we literally did our growing up as a married couple. Had we met years later, we would have avoided a lot of the heartache and conflict that we've experienced. The fact that you're virgins may well make you wish you had dated others, especially later in life when you hit the inevitable low points. You WILL feel like you gave up too much at times. Keep it in mind, it's a sacrifice.
2006-10-30 14:12:06 · answer #2 · answered by lilbubgigi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i met my husband at 15, married at 16, had our first of 5 children at 17. we have been 2gether for 32 years. i was a virgin, he wasn't because he was 19 when i met him and had experience with women way before me (he was a musician ) which means there were always girls trying to get with him. We struggled, everyone does, but we hung in there , thru thick and thin, and now all our children are grown adults. You two can make it work, it's all about the commitment, not age. finish school, go to college, learn all you can learn, wait on having kids, that is the only regret we have is that we didn't finish our education, that's why we struggled, we had children too early. We deprived them of having a better up bringing. other than that, we wouldn't change a thing. Now a days people don't take marriage serously, when it gets hard they bail. then they have to start all over again. You have the right idea, college first. Good luck and God bless your relationship.
2006-10-30 14:02:58 · answer #3 · answered by smart007 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ive been married for two years. I first started dating my husband when I was 15, we got married when I was 19. There is of course hard times but we love eachother so much that we work really hard to get through them together. I would not do anything different if i could. I am very happy and everyday is better than the next. (the first year is very hard, for everybody,don't give up...)
2006-10-30 13:40:52 · answer #4 · answered by Stacy L 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you have been together as long as you have is a big plus in your favor, it's given you time to get to know each other.
Another thing, don't listen to what people say about you not having expirience. Sounds like your both doing well right now, also DON'T listen to what society says, especially when it comes to sex, sex before marriage can harm your relationship and get things started on the wrong foot.
I think your doing the right thing, and I think your relationship is very strong, and the way your going it can only get stronger, your building alot of trust in each other.
Hope that this helps.
Take care and God Bless
2006-10-30 13:44:02 · answer #5 · answered by Bryan M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I met my husband in The 11Th grade, he was a senior. He went away for collage and we married about 4 years later. We have been together ever since the day we met. We are each others firsts. I have no desire to be with anyone else and never have. We did have our problems, but worked through all of them. You have got to know that you have to follow you heart. There is no such thing as a perfect relationship there are problems in all of them. If you name it we have been there done that. You just have to be dedicated to the person you love. Collage was tough for us but we never gave up. After collage he got a good job, and we moved in together. No we were not married! That is one piece of advise I would like to give you. Live with him first! If you can not live with him how can you marry him? You never know some one until you live with them. Best of Luck to you and yours!
One thing I never did was put my morals on the back shelf! You must never ever set them aside! As long as you do this and he does this you 2 will be fine! Good Luck! We were told we wouldn't make it and look at us now!
Together 13/ Married 6...................
2006-10-30 13:51:59 · answer #6 · answered by littlegoober75 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
why not ? I was 19 when I got married and my husband was 7 years older than me and we are together for 8 years now. For me was not difficult because I knew in my heart he is the right one.Besides , If he is the one for you , you do not want to be with someone else because there are so many bad guys out there in this world. So , look into your heart .In my opinion virginity is not a big deal.You should feel satisfied in every way and that is very important.
Wish you luck...
2006-10-30 13:42:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
READ!!! Hey im a guy and im 18 right now and gonna be 19 next week and guess what!! Im getting married next month in December! my girlfriend is 20 and like you we are also virgins. The good thing i wanna say about you is how you guys TALK about your FUTURE because that is a great sign that you guys are serious. Trust me i know because me and my girlfriend have been thru VERY difficult times with people since we started going out two yrs ago. And also alot of adults kept telling us the VERY same thing. But guess what sister, the ONLY person who knows what he/she really wants is yourself. It you feel your TRULY love him and vice versa NOTHING will tear you apart because like gods word the bible says, "LOVE NEVER FAILS". I have talked to many adults who got married young and the majority are happily married with eachother. And the virgin thing, it makes you STRONGER because that ITSELF is proof that your LOVE is true, you were willing to wait for that special someone. Good for you. So let noone tell you otherwise about how you feel and i wish only the best for you because i KNOW what your going thru and trust me if your love for him is strong, you will make it. Good LUCK. ALEX
2006-10-30 13:48:14 · answer #8 · answered by Deception 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was 20 when I married my dh. I'm now 34. I had a couple of boyfriends before him, but nothing serious. I have never regreted that I didn't "play the field" or get more "experience". We are still very happily married.
2006-10-30 13:39:45 · answer #9 · answered by homeschoolmama 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
DO NOT Let other people (this includes family) Tell you how you feel!!! If your love is true and strong then you will be fine!!!! Do not let them talk you down or ruin your life..... it is great you have been each other's Only love!!! No drama!! no old BF's/GF's Bull sh**..... If you love each other then stay true to each other. don't let anyone control your emotions or life!!!! I know this from experiance!!! Good luck!!! Hope you guys have MANY wonderful years together!!!
2006-10-30 13:45:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋