I am 19 and me and my boyfriend have been together for 3 years. We are definitely serious and when we talk about our futures we definitely include eachother in them. we aren't planning on getting married until after college but a lot of adults say that we might break up because we'll realize that we havent had a lot of experience and i want to think that it's possible to be with someone forever when you havent been with other people. we're also virgins and im worried about how that fits in--whether it will make us stronger, or make us want to experience it with others also..please give me some reassurance
2006-10-30 13:34:42 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Kudos on being together for 3 years & being a virgin. That's awesome.
Yes, you will be tempted to experience things (sexual & not) with other men/women. That is natural & you shouldn't feel guilty about it. If it happens you need to sit & talk with each other & get your relationship back into focus. If you decide that you want to experience other things, tell each other. Don't cheat, lie, or be deceitful. But believe me when I say that the grass isn't always greener on the other side. If you love each other, give it your all. Try to make it. You'll have your difficult moments for sure. But try to stay focused. Nothing worth while is ever easy.
Peace & good luck!
2006-10-30 13:41:05 · answer #1 · answered by IMHO 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Hollister,
I met my husband when I was 18 and he was 22. We were together for 7 years before we decided to get married. Alltogether, we've known each other for almost 10 years and know are proud parents to a 2 year old angel. Been through a alot (and I mean it!).
All the way through our relationship, our parents are not that supportive. And it feels like the whole world is just waiting to collapse on top of us, then would happily be humming away. Yes, it is tough. But if you feel like you love each other and care for one another, and if it's meant to be then it's meant to be. Nobody, and I MEAN nobody can tear you apart.
So what I would suggest is for you guys to take it positively and make sure that both of you understand the circumstances and be prepared for any possibilities of negative situations you guys might face in the future. The key word here is to be STRONG. And the fact that both of you are virgins is even sweeter. So both of you would know that after all the waiting, you will be sharing the intimacy with each other. Of course the temptation of trying it out with other people will be there but as I said, If both of you really want this...BE STRONG!
Besides, after knowing each other for so long, do you REALLY think this relationship would fail under any circumstances? I dun think so. Look at the positive side. Even if you guys dun end up being married, you know that you guys will always be the best of mates...Right?
I wish both of you all the best and if you do get married, can I suggest a song for your wedding dance? You're Still The One - Shania Twain.
Good Luck!
2006-10-30 13:52:54 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly i would not worry about it.. My boyfriend and i have been together since i was 14 and now at 21 we are still together and stronger than ever. If you are seriously worried about it like i was, ask to go on a break and see if some one else catches your attention.... my guess if it is true love you will be back in each others arms in no time. I really hope you guys stay together it seems like you two truely care about each other... Good luck!
2006-10-30 13:40:09 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have a sister that started going with her husband when she was 17 or 18. They went together for 7 years before the got married.
2006-10-30 13:57:34 · answer #4 · answered by Alien 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think of that's amazingly lovable. Its not, in my opinion a lot the reality that u wont have experienced persons, greater the techniques a individual modifications between the a protracted time of sixteen-26 years previous. If u and ur boyfriend advance at the same time, he will not be swayed via different women. If on the different hand, the two one in all u advance aside & replace too a lot, that's the main logical clarification why u might chop up up sooner or later. as long as issues between the two one in all u are solid in the mattress room, he shouldnt experience the might desire to circulate someplace else. So consistently talk with one yet another and u shouldnt go incorrect!
2016-10-16 13:51:25 · answer #5 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you two are doing fine so far.I've known couples that have only been with their spouse since high school and have been married for years.They seem to be perfectly happy and content with their decision.Most cases don't end that way though.Continue to remain celibate for your husband to be! If later your boyfriend changes his feelings and meets someone else while at college,then you will know it wasn't meant to be!.Only GOD knows your future!Save the gift HE gave you till you marry and trust that either way, you will be rewarded in the end with the man of your dreams.
2006-10-30 14:50:52 · answer #6 · answered by doug 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well in answer to that we met and waited 3/1/2 years and we were 19 and 20 weve been together 28-1/2 years so far hope that will re assure you!
2006-10-30 13:41:20 · answer #7 · answered by wes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are in doubt, then you might wonder for the rest of your life if you stay together. You guys are young. Set each other free... if you two are meant to be... you will both come back to each other.
2006-10-30 13:39:16 · answer #8 · answered by curious 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you hang in there my daughter and her boyfriend dated since she was 16 just got married last month was the only one for the both of them she is 24 and he is 25
2006-10-30 13:38:21 · answer #9 · answered by Lost Angel 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋