Why do men get massages with special ending, married and single? Is it cheating in your book, or just a relaxation?? Is that just a cop out?? Do you consider it, a reason to divorce??
2006-10-30 13:33:43 · 18 answers · asked by cookie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
you mean a rub and a jerk?
Well, I don't know....it's kind of a weird thing.
I'm not sure If I would consider that cheating if my husband got it done.
I'd be weirded out and think it was strange but strangely wouldn't feel betrayed or anything.
2006-10-30 13:37:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 1⤋
A massage is acceptable perhaps, definitely acceptable if it's a professional massage therapist, but if my man were to get a happy ending from anybody other than me or himself, I'd be out of there in a heartbeat. That's a cheater in the making (if you don't already consider what he did cheating), and with all the people I've known and all the stories I've heard, I've never heard of a cheater changing his ways. Although I suppose if I were already married to him, it would only be fair to give him a chance ... divorce is not something that should be taken lightly. But if it became a habit, I might have to leave, because those sorts of behaviors would only get worse. Not to mention that if you ask him to stop and then he continues, he is showing enormous disrespect, and I would have to question how much he really loved me.
Of course, there are some couples for which that sort of behavior is perfectly acceptable, and if it is something that two people have agreed is ok, then I suppose it's fine.
2006-10-30 21:47:48 · answer #2 · answered by Julie 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it is a flimsy excuse that it is just a massage. What would a guy do if he walked into a room do find some guy fingering his wife or girlfriend and she said it was her happy ending?
Oh and by the way, If my husband was getting sexual pleasure from any other women, his sorry *** would be on the street the next day and he would be paying alimony up the wazoo. I am also in the military with him so he would be expecting an adultry complaint as well, if that was truly a possibility.
I guess it comes down to what a couple defines as cheating. Some people are swingers and dont care. But if they know their sig other would consider it cheating, they deserve every consequence if they get caught.
2006-10-30 21:36:09 · answer #3 · answered by E R 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
If it's not intercourse, it's not cheating. It's just a way to top off and get the full relaxation from the massage, and in a lot of other countries this is perfectly normal. Americans have to many hang-ups about sex anyway.
2006-10-31 00:23:17 · answer #4 · answered by WestCoastin4Life 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have never got the "special ending" type of massage, except that sometimes when I am with my wife, we end up making love.
Getting a so called "hand job" from anyone else is a form of cheating, as any form of sexual intimacy between anyone other than husband and wife is defined as either fornication or adultery depending on the marital status of the individuals involved.
2006-10-30 21:48:59 · answer #5 · answered by HeartSpeaker 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is cheating, but according to our ex president it is not sexual relations.lol But ladies you must agree that it's not nearly as bad as going on a date with a girl they think is hot who works in the office though. In fact even kissing a girl he likes vs. having a hand job from a so called therapist is a lot worse I would think. There are no feelings involved and technically it's not much differenent than doing it oneself. I'm not saying it's right but it may not be something worth divorcing over. Besides do you really want to let him off the hook that easily?lol Good luck!
2006-10-30 22:03:08 · answer #6 · answered by JustNick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Of course it's cheating! A massage doesn't include "special endings" in my book.....and if it does, he's out the door!
2006-10-30 21:39:51 · answer #7 · answered by bluez 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not know what to make of this. Clearly it points that something is not right in the relationship such a man has with his wife/girl friend.
Why would a man want a masseuse to just jerk him off, when he can do the same himself. Clearly it is quite demeaning to the masseuse, who do it for money. It does not speak well of the man on his treatment of women
I would suggest a showdown and asking for explanation.
If you get a convincing answer continue, otherwise it is your call how you want to handle it
2006-10-30 22:01:22 · answer #8 · answered by rvsasi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
cheating is cheating no matter how you look at it, besides how special can the ending be if you have to pay for it....personally i like to have a woman like me for who i am....not how much she could make off me.....anyway yes it's a cop out and yes it's reason for divorce.....good luck with your next message
2006-10-30 21:41:59 · answer #9 · answered by glduke2003 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Touching = cheating..strip clubs,massage parlours, etc..
Make it well known that it isn't something you like, how it makes you feel and where you stand on the subject. If he does it again then yes, its a lack of respect/cheating and dishonest behaviour..time for counselling or divorce...
2006-10-30 21:36:59 · answer #10 · answered by Dick Tater 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Not only is it cheating, it's a good way to get arrested in some areas. And in some areas they print your name for all to see...Is cheating a reason to divorce? That's up to the wife...
2006-10-30 21:41:41 · answer #11 · answered by Vinegar Taster 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋