He knows that I am a professional and that I am confident about myself and my job. He, the NEW boss, has had me in his office twice....intimidation techniques....and got no where with that. Now, he is too nice and has touched my shoulder twice and I need to tell him to back the f... off.
2006-10-30 13:03:36 · 22 answers · asked by immensely purple 1 in Business & Finance ➔ Careers & Employment
The EEOC defines sexual harassment as "unwelcome sexual advances, requests for sexual favors, and other verbal or physical conduct of a sexual nature...when...submission to or rejection of such conduct is used as the basis for employment decisions...or such conduct has the purpose or effect of...creating an intimidating, hostile or offensive working environment."
Employees subjected to sexual harassment should immediately notify their supervisor. If the supervisor is the harasser, the worker should go to the supervisor's superiors. Employers cannot solve the problem if they do not know about it. If there is a grievance procedure, employees should use it.
Victims should keep a written record of all incidents of harassment, detailing the place, time, persons involved and any witnesses. Victims can also express their disapproval of the conduct to the perpetrator and tell him or her to stop.
An employee can file a claim with the EEOC. If the state in which the employee lives prohibits sexual harassment, the worker should contact the proper state agency.
Thus, sexual harassment consists of two types of prohibited conduct:
quid pro quo—where submission to harassment is used as the basis for employment decisions; and
hostile environment—where harassment creates an offensive working environment.
2006-10-30 13:27:00 · answer #1 · answered by Help Me Help You 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I think you're overreacting. Touching people on the shoulder is friendly gesture. If you really think hes psycho and trying to rape you in his office then wear spikes on your shoulder pads.. he wont touch your shoulders then!! ^ _ ^
No really. Dont make a big deal out of nothing. More the issue is why do you feel you have problems with this guy? I think you're inventing them. He's new hes trying to understand his staff. Give him a break. Give people a chance.
Dont be like the kids in middle school giving the sub teacher a hard time just because hes new.
To address your question: Tell him that you would appreciate it if he maintained a professional relationship with you and to refrain from unnecessary body contact as this is not something you are accustomed to or take lightly.
2006-10-30 13:19:09 · answer #2 · answered by MM 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm in a debate class, and i am currently on the topic of domestic violence (even though this isn't at home) same as the tournaments, and i can think of a hundred of ways... i guess the most professional way would be to tell him you do not feel comfortable with another employee touching you. that's just a straight up answer. kinda sounds funny coming from a junior in high school.
2006-10-30 13:08:54 · answer #3 · answered by adamcekin 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Avoid being alone with your boss. Politely tell him that you are not interested in a personal relationship with anyone at work. If he doesn't back down completely, make an appointment with the human resources department at your work. It is against the law for your boss to touch you at work. Period.
2006-10-30 13:12:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To stop him in his tracks right now....report him to his boss for sexual harrassment. Being touched without your concent or even in a manner that makes you feel uncomfortable is sexual harrassment. You should go to the higher ups asap. If they will not do anything then go speak with an attorney. It is illegal for anyone to speak to you in a manner that makes you feel uncomfortable, touch you in any manner that makes you feel uncomfortable, it can all be considered forms of sexual harrassment. It will be investigated and if found that he has been doing this he can be repremanded or terminated. Do not put up with it anymore.
2006-10-30 13:16:49 · answer #5 · answered by miamac49616 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
simple say if he does it in front of someone, preferably someone you can rely on, that you do not dislike him touching you like that.
In other words quietly collect evidence for legal action. after you feel you have collected plenty of evidence then try to go though channels at the company. never give the company the original pieces of evidence. this might lose you this job and affect future jobs, but is the only way to be sure to get you out of the situation.
2006-10-30 13:14:22 · answer #6 · answered by zedvilla 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he only touched you on the shoulder, and not in intimate places, I suggest you just tell him you'd rather he doesn't touch you at all.
But.. if he touched you in intimate places, or threatened you or did anything which is unacceptable in the work place (touching on the shoulder IS acceptable), you need to go to his boss or to HR and complain about sexual harassment. Again - touching on the shoulder is perfectly acceptable, but if you're uncomfortable with that you need to just say it.
2006-10-30 13:07:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
What kind of touch was it? Does he get touchy feelly with everyone, or just you. You may be over reacting to someones communication habits. If on the other hand this guy is just being slimy tell him you don't want to be touched by him. Just straight up, if it happens again say, "Could you please not touch me, thank you." If that doesn't work talk to a lawyer.
2006-10-30 13:10:21 · answer #8 · answered by Dud 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Put it in writing. Something like: "On these occasions (list them) you have touched me on the shoulder. I realize that you probably do not mean anything by it, however, please do not put your hands on my body for any reason. I find it to be inappropriate and unprofessional." (Clean it up some.) Make sure that HR gets a copy.
2006-10-30 13:09:55 · answer #9 · answered by Uther Aurelianus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just tell him you do not feel comfortable with him touching you. If he doesn't understand that talk to HR officer or a lawyer.
2006-10-30 13:11:35 · answer #10 · answered by andreo3375 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋