We both have children from previous marriges, and one together. Not even a month ago we got on the subject and we both decided we did not want anymore. He is gonna flip when i tell him, he is 37 and says there is no way he could start all over with a newborn. I need help so badly, anyone got any suggestions on how i should tell him?
2006-10-30 13:01:47 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
I have a simular situation, except i am 20, and my Dad is 38 his girlfriend 30. My dad had 3 children, didnt want any more. His girlfriend got pregnant. He wasnt thrilled, but after seeing the picture of the baby, and her stomache starting to grow he changed. She just told him out of the blue, she told me first though. I think it was support for her because I am only ten years younger. But honestly if you want the child, and he doesnt, or does not like the fact that your pregnant, he should be respecting you and your descion. Try to tell him the best way possible though. I think my dads girl friend got him a card that said to daddy from mommy on it...
2006-10-30 13:14:24 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it was not even a month ago that you had this conversation about more kids, I would have to say that the irony is that you were already pregnant at the time. Beside that, you need to ask yourself why you are so worried about telling him. I think that you know each other better than a few words a month ago can define. Having kids is not a problem for either one of you, and having a family together after having kids with other spouses is another bridge that you have crossed. Sure, you both said you did not want this, but you are not the first to be in this spot. Telling him will be a small part of the big conversation that you are nervous about because you have no idea where it will take you. He will not "flip" but he may not say everything that you want to hear. Good luck!
2006-10-30 13:16:09 · answer #2 · answered by ODrisk 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sit him down and discuss it with him - he may surprise you! OK so he said he didn't want anymore... but baby is here now so he might be happier about it than you are giving him credit for!
You say "he is gonna flip when i tell him" - honey, you weren't alone making this baby. Sure he can freak out but he was part of this too!!
Just sit him down and say "Honey, i know we decided a few weeks ago that we didn't want more children however i would like to let you know that that was before i knew i was pregnant with this one. Congratulations you are going to be a Daddy again!"
And follow on the conversation from there.
Best of luck to you, your b/f and your new bub! :)
2006-10-30 13:10:12 · answer #3 · answered by Smiley One 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think on just a respect position that you need to let him know. You know him best whether you should make it out to be a guessing game or not but he has a right to know. God forbid if something happens to the child during pregnancy you're going to need his support. and not to mention you will get bigger. Sweetie if you love him and care for him and don't care to have a kid with him give him the benefit and tell him. more than likely he might be scared but okay with the situation. Good luck and god bless
2006-10-30 13:20:00 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he has to know,
you have to tell him and hopefully he will be supportive.
Just get him alone somewhere ( may be going out for coffee or dinner) and tell her that you did not want it either but now there is nothing to do abut it. let him know that how much his support means to you.
if he got upset do not be sad or mad, give him time. I hope things work well for you.
everything has a reason
good luck
2006-10-30 13:44:34 · answer #5 · answered by Me 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"Well, honey, remember that conversation we had a while back? Well, I hope you are willing to change your mind. Given that we haven't been correctly using birth control, that we are both adults and should know better, and that you are half responsible for our reproductivity, well, congratulations, daddy..."
2006-10-30 13:09:19 · answer #6 · answered by Angela M 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well hes just going to have to take responsibilty. He's part of it Just tell him. Or take a pee test and just leave it in the garbage can for him to see. He'll get the hint.
2006-10-30 13:10:29 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell him right away and if he doesn't want it just keep the baby and leave him. here my email address if you need a friend. efrain78223@yahoo.com
2006-10-30 13:22:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him if he is a good man you will definitely have a positive answer if he i s a bastard them get rid of him you dont deserve this!
2006-10-30 13:07:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask him how he feels about adoption.
Or marriage.
The conversation should just flow from there.
2006-10-30 13:07:37 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋