Four years ago when my relationship began, it was a far cry from what it has become today. The man Im with was caring, kind, generous etc etc. Today I am now a shell of what I used to be. I no longer have any friends, I am unable to go anywhere, do anything. Because I tried to make him happy, I gave up everything a little at a time for him. Now I have no where to turn. Shelters are full. I have no income because when I would start a job, he did his best to make sure I didnt get there on time or missed work all together because of no transportation or money for a bus. I have called state & federal agencies for help but because I have no dependents, disabilities and Im white...I dont qualify. Other than being homeless and on the streets, I have no where to go for help. Is there anywhere I can go to seek assistance untill I am able to find employment to work long enough to be able to feed and house myself? Is my only option to live with an abusive relationship forever? Help!!
2006-10-30 12:53:08 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Do you have a gater belt and some heels? Stripping is a lot more acceptable these days. And it requires no investment to get started right away.
2006-10-30 12:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by edward_the_l0ngshanks 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Okay, first I am sorry. You have gotten some pretty cold answers out there. Some good ones too....family or friends? Both good options. Churches....you may be able to get some assistance. His family.....low chance but possible if you have grown close to anyone. How much is in his bank accounts?????? You know where I am going with that. Have you called the police? They may be able to help. Plan Honey plan. Start putting aside some money every chance you get. And get a job as fast as you can.
2006-10-30 13:15:15 · answer #2 · answered by Sleepless in Seattle 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
do u have any friends, what about parents?your husband is a bully, he thinks if he kept you from getting a job, and ran away all of your friends he could have complete control.he alienated everyone you knew to keep you from ever leaving. but sometimes we just have to take that one step, surely there is an old friend somewhere, don't be afraid to ask for help. have u tried to go to a church for assist?first u need to find shelter, next get a job, take small steps. can't accomplish it all at first.don't blame yourself, he showed you what he thought would make you marry him, than after he turned into the devil. ever think of getting a restraining order, and putting him out of the house, than ask for alimoney until after the divorce.u are not this beaten down woman unless you choose to be. do u have assess to the bank account? this is a toxic relationship, get out of it by any means. seems like this man has kept you down insuring you would have to depend on him for everything. ask a church for help, ask the lord to intervene.
2006-10-30 13:12:17 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How did you get here. to post this question?
Seams like your harder on your self, There is help, I don't know what skills you have, but I'm sure there is some kind of help out there, if your looking for assistance, seek and you shall find. Maybe moving back might not be so bad, just bring a baseball bat, and use the smart end if needed. Do not let any one be abusive to you. Stand up and take control of your life
2006-10-30 13:01:17 · answer #4 · answered by dave091125 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
some times it takes us hitting dirt to wake up all have at some time or the other. if you have no children you can certainly make it i endured a lot for my children sake that was my first concern even if i was abused dissappointed, depress i hung in there until i had a way out i kiss a lot a**** took a lot of bull***i learn to smile when all the time i was working my way out .you have to learn how to beat a wife beater at his own game. i know you have a brain b/c you wrote this letter just use it to your best advantage you picked him as your husband hang in there and take him for all it's worth. do not try to blame it on b/c you white you cannot get no help. you got help at the home you left. i know one answerer, told you to go out in the street i say, why should you? when you can go home and do the same thing and get just as much .any way that is so low for a woman to go. put you thinking hat on and be strong
2006-10-30 13:15:57 · answer #5 · answered by mishoney 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You never said wether you were married or not?Honey i have been threw the same thing for 8 years i was abused.i had one child out of it...before i had this child i tried to leave.with no money makes it even harder...get your hands on some money wether it is money he gives you to pay a bill,,or if your married from the bank account its your money to,,,go to one of your local churches they will help you.find a place to stay help you to find a job...if he comes after you then call the police and put a restraining order against him...Thank god there is no kids involved,,,its time to move on...the church should have a list of other places to go also..don't stay there.....good luck
2006-10-30 15:25:18 · answer #6 · answered by pantherblack05 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hello,
okay, its not a color thing why you are not getting help....due to the fact i am white honey and i have gotten help from the state off and on from17 till 23 .....so thats not your problem....why don't you go to work at a place close by your house and that way your not depending on him for a ride and you can walk to work.....don't make the excuse that he keeps you from work no one can do that...you need to make friends with people around you and mend your family again and they could be there for you too....i just got out of an abusive relationship about 1 year ago and my parents and sisters hated me for staying with him as long as i did....but he was controling and i had to make the money so he could spend....but there is a way and stop pitting your self and say i gotta do this for myself to get away from him and be a better person..... he may be able to abuse you mentally but your gonna have to stand you to him...and if you don't do it soon its only gonna get worse....and you will do better with out him trust me ......my agreement with my fanily was i would never go back to my ex and they promised to help me as long as they had to and now i wouldn't turn my back on them if i had too....you just gotta mend things with people that matter most...rember bloods thicker that water especialy some man thats could walk out on you at any time and leave you stranded with nothing at all....you need to think long and hard on why your there and what he does for you....if its really worth it????and i don't think any man is worth family that gonna always be some part of you.....please think before you do any thing......good luck
2006-10-30 15:02:08 · answer #7 · answered by wendy p 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do a web search for women's shelters or battered women's shelters, women's services in your area. They are not always found in your local phone book.
Also, if you have a doctor, ask for a referal to a mental health counselor or social worker who can put you in contact with help.
If you have any family you can turn to for help, please do so.
2006-10-30 13:10:22 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you have family? Family is the best way to go if nothing else helps...there are underground things as well.
2006-10-30 12:57:44 · answer #9 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Check with a church, you don't have to belong there to go for help. Keep praying and keep the faith.
2006-10-30 13:02:34 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋