Four years ago when my relationship began, it was a far cry from what it has become today. The man Im with was caring, kind, generous etc etc. Today I am now a shell of what I used to be. I no longer have any friends, I am unable to go anywhere, do anything. Because I tried to make him happy, I gave up everything a little at a time for him. Now I have no where to turn. Shelters are full. I have no income because when I would start a job, he did his best to make sure I didnt get there on time or missed work all together because of no transportation or money for a bus. I have called state & federal agencies for help but because I have no dependents, disabilities and Im white...I dont qualify. Other than being homeless and on the streets, I have no where to go for help. Is there anywhere I can go to seek assistance untill I am able to find employment to work long enough to be able to feed and house myself? Is my only option to live with an abusive relationship forever? Help!!
2006-10-30 12:52:15 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Is there anyway you can look and get/maintain a job while you're still with him? Maybe that is the best way to go in terms of securing some kind of stability when you're on your own, then maybe you can rent a really cheap apartment once you have been working there for a couple weeks?
Do you have any family you can turn to? Old friends? You said you had friends before, maybe one of them can help you out with a place to stay for a few weeks while you find a job?
I'm sorry you're going through this. Good luck!
2006-10-30 12:57:38 · answer #1 · answered by suekiemama@sbcglobal.net 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all, I'm glad you are out and on your own. That is the first step which is the hardest -- to walk away from the past and commit to starting over. Good for you, please give yourself credit for that, as that is no small task. As for help, I don't know what city or state you are in. Can you call the United Way helpline? I looked up National hotline for domestic violence and found: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233). In Houston there are a number of homeless coalitions that give referrals but I don't know where you are. Please call churches or any "Crisis Hotline" or "United Way" hotline you can find in the phone book until you find a good referral. There is always a way out once you make that first step in the right direction which you did. God bless you and please take care. Don't give up because you have done the right thing by walking away.
2006-10-30 21:01:57 · answer #2 · answered by emilynghiem 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Something Specially
For You
I said a prayer for you today
And know God must have heard-
I felt the answer in my heart
Although He spoke no word!
I didn't ask for wealth or fame
(I knew you wouldn't mind)-
I asked Him to send you treasures
Of a far more lasting kind!
I asked that He'd be near you
At the start of each new day
To grant you health and blessings
And my friendship to share your way
I asked for happiness for you
In all things great and small-
But it was for His loving care
I prayed the most of all.
By: Kenny P. aka-Cobra
2006-10-30 20:54:42 · answer #3 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cause you are white means nothing so lets not go there. Also there is NO WAY a shelter would be full...maybe you are scared to be with non white people there. Get out-now before he kills you or you kill yourself. Enough with the excuses.
2006-10-30 20:55:10 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
There are always options. They aren't always the one's we want to chose, but they're there. If you had friends once, & they truly were friends, they'll be there for you in your greatest time of need. You just need to take a leap of faith, trust God & call one of your friends that you trust. Then grab your stuff & get out. No one should ever ask you to give up your friends nor give you any ultimatums(sp). Take back control of YOUR life now. Don't wait for something else to happen.
2006-10-30 21:19:15 · answer #5 · answered by its_me_horses 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You sound so desperate...my heart goes out.
Is thier a friend or family member you can move in with temporarily? You must know someone who can help you.
Don't live in an abusive relationship, report him and get the hell out, NOW!
2006-10-30 20:57:21 · answer #6 · answered by stevebrit2004 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First off dump this guy!If you have a computer go to "I HATE MY LIFE.COM it has plenty of resources especially when you are becoming homeless!It should help alot!
2006-10-30 22:07:35 · answer #7 · answered by G Rock 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
try going to a hospital, sometimes they can find shelters that will take a person in need.
2006-10-30 20:55:20 · answer #8 · answered by firefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Pick yourself up , brush yourself of , and start all over again !!
2006-10-30 21:37:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
get out while you can,this person is weird you are living with get out
2006-10-30 20:58:27 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋