are both active member of alcoholics anonymous. I would like to know if marriage of this type usually work out
2006-10-30 12:47:05 · 16 answers · asked by Ellen J 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
your marriage will work good, you have each other to love and support each other....congrats and be strong and you will be fine....
2006-10-30 12:50:50 · answer #1 · answered by walterknowsall 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I can tell you that you 2 can make it work as long as you stay away from the alcohol. You are active so I'm assuming that you do stay away from it. there is no way to know if your marriage will last forever but I can tell you that just because you are both alcoholics shouldn't mean that it won't. I am not an alcoholic but my sister is. She is very active with her AA and I have met a lot of her friends. Friends that are married and have been 25 years that are alcoholics as well. You just have to work on it, no different than a couple that aren't addicts. I hope it works for you 2. Don't let your problems bring you down, let them hold you together. You both have something that has been a tough battle, if you can beat the addiction then I'm sure you can win at the marriage.
2006-10-30 20:52:36 · answer #2 · answered by ~*~frankie~*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriages "work out" because both parties make the decision to stay together and work through problems no matter what. Since you both struggle with the same temptation (alcohol), you should be a source of good encouragement to one another. Remember, divorce is not something that happens to a couple like a disease. It's a decision people make when they give up on the relationship. Treat each other with respect and follow "the Golden Rule," and you should be on your way to a long and happy marriage.
2006-10-30 20:53:17 · answer #3 · answered by The_Answer 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are many facts determining whether a marriage will "work." however, as far as alcohol is concern, the two of you can help each other and hold one another accountable. on the flip side, if the marriage doesn't work, then one or both of you is likely to fall back into alcoholism. good luck!
2006-10-30 20:49:08 · answer #4 · answered by fearmymagicbubbles 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are worse things in the world than to be a recovering alcholic, there are all kinds of differences in people that they dont even realize until they get married and i think at least you 2 know what 1 of the weaknesses are in each other i think that is a plus not a minus. congrats and the very best of luck to you both.
2006-10-30 21:25:16 · answer #5 · answered by moe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you two are both deep into recovery, like at least 5 years each, sober, you should be fine as long as you both remember to not turn to the bottle when times get tough.
Good luck.
2006-10-30 21:05:46 · answer #6 · answered by Simply Lovely 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some work out and some don't. If you've known each other long enough to know this isn't just the 13th step, you'll be as fine as any other couple could be.
2006-10-30 20:50:52 · answer #7 · answered by booktender 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your marriage has a good chance just like everyone elses. you both have definite goals in mind and 12 steps is a life rule to live by therefore you have a strong foundation. good luck
2006-10-30 20:51:40 · answer #8 · answered by wise1 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oh, such a painful question. ok, my husband and i both over spend...badly. but he blames me FOR EVERY SINGLE financial mishap we have. even though all his credit cards are MAXED out. my cards are $50 away from being paid off. if i bring anything home new i get yelled at. i took $150 out of OUR joint account the other day and he freaked. he is not talking to me (yea he is immature to boot). i am in charge of the bills and if all the utilities were not in my name and on my credit report i would drop it all in his lap........and leave him. which is inevitable at this point. does it make sense what i am saying?
2006-10-30 20:57:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
One of my good friends has been married now for a few years, has a kid and one on the way and they are AA members.
2006-10-30 21:00:22 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It could help. You will have a support group with you all the time. Good Luck with your marriage.
2006-10-30 20:53:00 · answer #11 · answered by masterurownmind 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋