This may seem stupid to some people. I send my hubby a very detailed e mail when something is not going good for me or we are having problems. He still never talks to me about the mail. The last one he just cried and huged me and we still never talked about it. He will tell me he got it but, he won't write back. I prefer to tell him my feelings in a note rather then in person. hE IS THE SILENT type he don't talk about how he feels at all. Question is would it bug you if your wife/husband sent you emotional e mail's? Do you ever prefer to write a note rather then talk face to face with a spouse?
2006-10-30 12:12:28 · 15 answers · asked by ally'smom 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yes my husband and I sometimes email back and forth to talk about a certain situation. I find this is a good thing because you have time to think about what you really want to say and can get everything out without being interupted.
It doesnt bug me.
2006-10-30 12:36:32 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally I love e-mail. Sometimes writing things out helps to organize your thoughts and really put some thought into what you're saying. How many times have we flown off of the handle and uttered damaging words that can never be retracted? If only we had a chance to think before we speak. When I had a steady boyfriend I used e-mail to say good morning and sometimes to say something sexy to keep his motor racing all day until we could be together. But realistically you have to be able to talk face-to-face. You can't conquer what you won't face.
2006-10-30 20:19:00 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
You might very well be able to make this relationship last through only notes, but even the silent type of people sometimes crave that face to face conversation. If you ever feel that it is becoming a problem and you feel distant from your significant other look into counseling. It can very helpful in just opening the communication pathways.
2006-10-30 20:17:34 · answer #3 · answered by redcherri817 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife never let me even finish a sentence. Let alone, ask her a question and get an answer from her !
So, I write everything down on paper, never more than two pages. I would set up a time slot for half an hour on Friday evening or Saturday morning for her to respond to these questions and comments.
It works OK for me. But she does not like it. She thinks that she is a superwomen, and nobody should have any complaint about her.
What ever you are doing is fine in my books. But I like my method better. Good luck !
2006-10-30 23:02:44 · answer #4 · answered by ben c 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I've done it.... on several occasions. Usually I try talking face to face, but sometimes he's just not open to what I say, and writing is the only way to get it out and make my point completely, without being interrupted and having an argument start. He will either write back... giving me his side, or he'll approach me to talk. Because when I get to the point where I'm emailing him, he knows things are serious.
2006-10-30 20:19:38 · answer #5 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i do it both....but it's really a personal choice...if it's in writing that you feel more comfortable to express more about your feelings..then so be it...I am moved about what you said that your husband did cry and hug you about the last email that you sent him...is that not enough that he did acknowledge whatever it is that he might done wrong on you? you said he is the silent type..so i think it's good that you wrote him...it could be the more appropriate tool for communication between you and your husband....
2006-10-30 20:23:45 · answer #6 · answered by chona a 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that it is a good idea! This can keep you from fighting then it is a nice way to communicate. Be sure that you send him some LOVING e-mails so he won't think every thing between the two of you is bad. SENT HIM SOME LOVE!
2006-10-30 20:17:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes it is alright to do that but when you do it you also need to discuss it with him to make sure he understood what you were saying and that you guys are on the same page. I would wish that someone could send me an email that would tell me all the things they were feeling cause then it would be right there.
2006-10-30 20:25:48 · answer #8 · answered by postal_marg 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'd be upset if my husband did that. I'd feel he was using me as a journal, not allowing me to engage in the situation and basically dumping it on me without interaction/communication. I'd be insulted that he wouldn't speak to me about things.
I don't think it's stupid, but I think expecting him to sit down and write back is a little much. You're cutting him out of the problem solving process and denying him the right to share.
2006-10-30 20:19:20 · answer #9 · answered by Violet Pearl 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I actually write him letters, only because at the moment I may be too pissed off, of hurt, and might say something I might regret. But after a day or so we do "talk" about it, only I usually initiate the conversation.
2006-10-30 20:41:58 · answer #10 · answered by Sassyazzrican 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋