i found out yesterday that one of my good friends was struck by a car and killed now today i find out that it was suicide how do i deal with what i am feeling right now it is too confusing?
2006-10-30 10:35:40 · 6 answers · asked by psycholilblondegirl 4 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
I am so sorry for your loss. I have been in your situation before and it is terribly painful and confusing. It took me years to come to terms with what my friend did, and why he did it. I have depression, but suicide has never been an option. It's hard to comprehend why someone would do this to the people who love them.
I am not sure what to suggest. Your feelings are all normal and natural. Don't feel that you are terrible for being angry. It may last a long time. If you feel you are not accepting what has happened or your feelings about it, please find a therapist to help you sort through it all. You will be in my thoughts and prayers.
2006-10-30 11:14:19 · answer #1 · answered by ♥ terry g ♥ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been in a similar situation. I had a friend that hung himself. I just didnt understand why would he do that. I thought he was okay. I went back and thought if I could have prevented it somehow or if he ever said anything to me that could have been a warning sign. I just didnt know how to think. I missed him so much. I realize now that he thought that death was the only way out and its not true. I also had a best friend that was killed in a car accident. That was the worst on me. I felt like I would never get over it. The pain of it was so intense that I coud have just crawled in a corner my self and died. You never getr over the death of a close friend. I dont believe that your friend went to hell. I believe that he felt that he had no way out. God forgives those that dont know any better. I know that people wouldnt always agree with me but I believe that. I hope I could help.
2006-10-30 10:46:36 · answer #2 · answered by angel l 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sucide is a very selfish way to deal with troubles because the person leaves behind people who have to deal with the loss, it also leaves people wondering what they could of done to prevent it.
You will be confused, which might turn to horror, that might turn to anger, that might turn to disbelief, which might turn in to your own depression. Grief is normal, and losing a good friend that way tends to undermine a persons own grip of how their own personal life is .
Allow your self to go through the grief process. Eventually your heart and mind will process the sorrow. This sort of loss leaves a scar. We all live with scars some more than others.
2006-10-30 12:13:13 · answer #3 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to remember the things that you loved about this friend.
As a Psychology Prof I should mention that you will probably feel
Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression and Final Acceptance.
Don't deny the anger, you are probably angry at your friend for
doing this to you and leaving you alone in this. That is OK.
Finally, I am very sorry to hear about your loss. I lost a life-long friend to a motorcycle accident 2 weeks ago, and I still feel sad and angry at him. Also, it's ok to cry. a lot.
2006-10-30 10:45:02 · answer #4 · answered by paul_tuttle1959 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
...this is a moment for mixed feelings
sad that this person is gone
angry that it was a suicide
disappointed that the person could not come to you
...i feel for you and i hope you have close relatives and friends that can help you through this hard time
2006-10-30 10:39:00 · answer #5 · answered by mørbidsшεεŧnεss 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Talk with a counsellor they will be able to help!!!!!!!!!
2006-10-30 10:50:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋