about 6 yrs with a man who cant do a thing right. to add insult 2 injury i know hes cheating on me with loys of girls. i have a beautiful 2 yr old baby and dont wanna break up our family but damn is life not gonna give me some good stuff like it gives him! I NEED HELP ASAP!!!!!!!!
2006-10-30 10:33:15 · 29 answers · asked by Bryanna 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is the part of life where you get out and stand on your own.
Men weren't invented to take care of you.
Take a big break from men and learn to stand on your own, There is NO reason for you to be with this man. Other than enjoying the drama and pain. Are you addicted to a painful life?
Make the choice. Get an education, get a job. Take care of you and the baby and then once you are strong on your own you can find a man to share your life with.
2006-10-30 10:37:08 · answer #1 · answered by clcalifornia 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honeykiss, kiss his sorry @ss goodbye. Do Not, I mean, DO NOT stay in an unhappy marriage for the sake of not wanting to "break up your family." This will only hurt your child more. You do not want your beautiful child to think that the behavior of the father is acceptable or appropriate or that this is the way "a family" lives. I say get out while your child is still young, unless you believe 100% that your husband can change. If you do not see him changing then leave and give your baby a good stable and happy home. Life will look up for you but it may be without him. Plus, if you know he is cheating have more self respect than to stay with a man that does not love and respect you like you deserve to be. He could bring home a disease from one of his chics on the side. Love yourself!!! I say leave his sorry, cheating and no-good butt.
2006-10-30 18:42:42 · answer #2 · answered by whatshername 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i feel the need to tell you this story take from it what you want. A guy was walking down a old country road he sees a old man with his hound dog sitting on the porch of a shack. The dog is howling and squirming, the man ask what's wrong with your dog there? The old man say's well he's laying on a rusty nail. The guy ask well, why don't he get up? The old man says well i guess he aint in enough pain yet.
2006-10-30 19:22:57 · answer #3 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't live like this it's not healthy for you or the child you are trying to raise. Damn there wasn't any signs of the cheating before you got married? If so you must have thought he would change. Get proof of the cheating and take him to court. That will give leverage as far as keeping your child. Confront him no need to be sitting here thinking what you need to do, go do it.
2006-10-30 18:38:49 · answer #4 · answered by fiestylady 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Move on. At this point, if you were to get a divorce you would get just about everything because he's cheating. This would allow you to maybe move out of town. Don't worry too much about your baby, it's best you leave now before the child is old enough to be affected by the arguments.
2006-10-30 18:39:41 · answer #5 · answered by cyber_music 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you mean to tell me you think life is giving him GOOD STUFF, as in the girls he's sleeping around with??? The only thing you mentioned good was your daughter and yourself. Don't worry, all this is going to catch up with him. One day it will. And if you left him, YOU would not be breaking up the family, HE did when he cheated!
2006-10-30 19:06:42 · answer #6 · answered by spelling nazi 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Divorce now while the child is still young and won't understand what is going on. I am 22 and my parents seperation killed me. If he won't change or try to be a better person then you have no other choice. Have you tried conseling? Maybe by a church member or a professional? Good Luck girl and stay strong for your baby. You don't have to put up with this mans crap!
2006-10-30 18:37:13 · answer #7 · answered by Happy 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I know its hard when kids are involved. People always say they stay for the kids, but if the relationship isn't a good one you should leave for the kids. Try to talk to him and tell him you are not happy. Be honest tell him if things don't get better your marriage isn't going to last. You child shouldn't be brought up in a unhealthy relationship. When you are happy you will be a much better parent. You are still young you have a whole life in front of you why be miserable for the rest of you life?
2006-10-30 18:36:40 · answer #8 · answered by welshmom 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It's better to break up a family to be in a disfunctional one. Don't wait until your child is old enough to be traumatized by a father like that and then a divorce. You're 25, you're plenty young enough to find a man and marry a man who WILL treat you and your child right. I just fear for children who are in families that are as bad as your's sounds.
2006-10-30 18:39:38 · answer #9 · answered by bride_to_be 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
either you both need to go for some counseling or you need to get out of this marriage. it sounds like neither one of you has any respect for the other. i realize that you don't want to break up your family, but what you have is not a family. you just have people living under the same roof. your baby might not understand what is happening now, but one day they will. sometimes two separate households are better than one loveless household that fights all the time.
2006-10-30 18:37:13 · answer #10 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋