We have been married for 2.5 years, and I have voiced the fact that this bothers me. I do not want it in MY posession, but he is old enough, let's just say that he has been gainfully employed for 15 years in a highly respectible and influential position. Am I wrong to feel as if this is disrespecting our household?
2006-10-30 10:28:38 · 20 answers · asked by Wonderinwife 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
His mother should have enough sense to see that her son is a grown man and doesn't need her to hold his check book. Is hse making any deposits, if not, give up the book. Why don't you get a checking account and give your book to an x, just for safe keeping and see if he likes that. In all seriousness, his mother should know better. Where is his father, usually fathers-in-laws stick up for the daughter-in-law?
2006-10-30 11:44:05 · answer #1 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you don't like that his mother holds the checkbook, the only option you have is to take over the duties of holding the checkbook - whether you like it or not. Sure he may have a great job, but it sounds like in his heart he is still a momma's boy. Time to make him a husband - make him bring it home and you take control - then the situation shouldn't bother you anymore.
2006-10-30 18:32:43 · answer #2 · answered by Michaela 4120 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, have him sign you up as a joint account holder and take over the finances in your household. It is odd that his mother is handling his money at his age, but it may be that he is not good at balancing his checking account properly and she took charge of it a while ago. You need to take over those duties and nicely let her know your intentions.
It is very important for one of you to keep track of bills, investments, savings and household budgets. Many women shy away from this, but you will be glad you became involved. It's better to know how much money you two have rather than be surprised later - with a not so nice surprise..
2006-10-30 18:45:08 · answer #3 · answered by Sirena 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I would have refused to let that continue long ago -that's just wrong. Your finances belong between you and your husband. You ae very right that it's disempowering and disrespecting your household, I strongly encourage you to take control of the checkbook yourself. Hope this helps!
2006-10-30 19:03:18 · answer #4 · answered by lulu 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are NOT WRONG! You're husband is a pu*ssy, honey, and if he doesn't ask for the checkbook back, you should. Give him a chance to do it first. But NO WAY should the in-law keep her nose in your financial (or personal) business if you or he are both capable of handling your affairs. Go get 'um, honey! Godloveya.
2006-10-30 18:51:00 · answer #5 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
um...no!!!
My mother-in-law knows too much about OUR income. She got my husband a credit card through her and her husbands acct, for emergency only. We had an emergency and she told him he couldn't use it. I told him to cut the card, pay off the balance and be done with it. I also told him if she is going to keep tabs on how he spends his money, he needs his own car insurance...not stay on hers. I told him if he does NOT take care of this soon, my paycheck will stop going into the joint acct and into my own acct. My money is MY business not hers. And when my money is tied up in his, HIS money IS my business. Yes it is VERY MUCH disrespecting your household.
2006-10-30 19:19:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are married then the bank account SHOULD be a joint one (just to protect yourself) and you SHOULD have access to the checkbook. He needs to untie the apron strings from his mother. Why did you marry this guy if he was such a momma's boy and it bothered you though?
2006-10-30 19:48:44 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Heck no, you are not wrong. Put your foot down and demand that he start to be his own person and cut the chord from Mommy. This is ridiculous. He is just lucky he does not have me for a wife. He would never hear the end of this crazy crap.
2006-10-30 18:32:25 · answer #8 · answered by whatshername 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
too weird! No it is not normal, and you should ask her for your husbands checkbook. I know i wouldn't want to be sharing my finances with my mother-in-law.
2006-10-30 19:20:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
No you are not wrong... Your husband should know better than to have his mother hold his check book... He is old enough to do it himself and it is not right that she knows exactly what your financials are.....
2006-10-30 19:30:53 · answer #10 · answered by Torres 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋