To put this in better perspective, I am 38 weeks pregnant, working, already have a five year old daughter, and I think he may be cheating on me. I am extremely busy but am willing to do anything to make this marriage work. Any suggestions??
2006-10-30 10:12:14 · 24 answers · asked by Hurray for the ANGELS! 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I said **might be ** cheating. this is not fact and i dont feel he is so far gone and removed from me that there is nothing i can do. blaghhh to the negative remarks, geez!!
2006-10-30 10:27:49 · update #1
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this is the question i posted earlier. i dearly love him, but there are some odd behaviors that he has been displaying.
2006-10-30 11:28:14 · update #2
okay well do u know for sure if he is havoing an affair? also wanting to save a marriage is a good thing and never feel stupid for wanting to jsut make sure there is something there worth saving to begin with.go back to ur dating days before kid what did u do besides sex that u can do right now while preg rekindle that intrest that led to this marriage to begin with. though dont be blind if u know he has had an affir u let him know girl ur not to be taken for granted ever.tell him u know waht is going on and u want to save what is left before it gets to late. counsling would be a major part of that.he has done worng if he has cheated and if he sees u r okay with it no matter what u do will stop him from doing it again. restart that friendship that led to ur passion. a mother should always be strong. remember if he has done u wrong think of the moral values ur children will pick up from this if he doesn't want to change. good luck
2006-10-30 10:30:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Remember what it was like when you fell in love with each other the first time.
As busy as you are. Invest in your relationship. The most important thing I can stress is a date night with your husband!!!
I don't buy ANY excuse... I'm too busy, we're broke, we don't have a sitter. All of that is nonsense.
A date night can happen when the 5 year old is in bed and the two of your share a bottle of non-alcoholic wine (since you are pregnant) and a movie followed by a bath or shower together or just lying in bed talking. Taking a nice stroll to notice the leaves, maybe a picnic in the park... be creative if you don't have the funds. If you do, then you can do something fun like in the middle of the day do a seedy hotel hook up. Middle of the day find a motel next to his work and ask him to meet you in room #___ for lunch, he'll wonder what got into you, but I'm sure he'll be all for it.
Send him love notes in his lunches. (This one makes mine happy) I sent mine a text a few weeks ago saying "thinking of you" then the next text said "naked of course". Remember what it's like to flirt.
2006-10-30 18:23:37 · answer #2 · answered by Heather S 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think he needs a swift kick in the rear. You're pregnant and he may be cheating! That's seriously messed up on his part.
I suggest you talk to him openly and get into therapy if something is wrong, but I would be very careful about doing "anything" to make it work. If you find out he is cheating, I'd run, not walk, to the best attorney I could find.
2006-10-30 19:10:49 · answer #3 · answered by lulu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Talk to him and get counseling if necessary. You need more than an unforgettable time to make a marriage last and be mended. Talk to him about your fears of losing him and let him know that you want it to work. Talk about the good and bad of things right now and find out what he is needing. If he is cheating it means that something he feels he needs is not there that he has to go out and find it somewhere. Both of you need to make it work, you can't make him fall in love with you again.
2006-10-30 18:17:38 · answer #4 · answered by vancie121 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, just relax darling. As a graduate biologist and also a father with a child of the same age, suspicions are are part of insecurity when you need security the most and boy do our wives give us hell during these times! Its all part of the game of love.
You need to understand that love is a perception, a state of mind and there are many ways to express true love. In the early stages it is kissing and caressing at every possible moment, but as life goes on there are otther ways as the physcial stuff becomes less obvious.
I love my wife and kids and I consider I express this by caring for every need they have, by being there for them and by letting them know I aadore them even though i live far away. there are different ways of expressing love. Just accept those raging hormones have taken control of your body!
2006-10-30 18:38:23 · answer #5 · answered by vaivagabundo 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
it's hard, that old saying again you can take a horse to water, firstly do you love yourself. if you don't how can he. do you talk?? ask your family to take you 5yr old and spend quality time together not at home go get a hotel relax cuddle do things together. what reason do you have to think he is cheating think about it rationally are you sure you aren't feeling depressed pre natal depression. I really hope you can find answers to these questions and answers to save your marriage only you know what he like's and dislike's.
Good luck and don't give up..
2006-10-30 18:20:33 · answer #6 · answered by kittycat 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am not sure you can get someone to fall in love again , i think if he cheating then the trust you had is gone and when the trust is gone you have nothing to fight for.
2006-10-30 18:28:48 · answer #7 · answered by Krissy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No sorry ,but if you get a good answer let me know I could ask the same question ,but pregnacy sometimes puts a damper on romance .Men are afraid they will hurt the baby.
2006-10-30 18:21:31 · answer #8 · answered by Alicia S 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Might I ask why it has to be you to revive your marriage?
Marriage is a partnership that involves two. If he is cheating now, I will venture to say he will do it again in the future.
2006-10-30 18:18:17 · answer #9 · answered by festus_porkchop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Like everything you love, you have to make time for it. Don't take things for granted. If you love him and are willing to "do anything" then do it, make the time, learn about each other all over again.
2006-10-30 18:16:31 · answer #10 · answered by Jason M 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋