i like guys and i think everyone knows it but i dont know if i should tell them? your opinon please
2006-10-30 10:09:51 · 25 answers · asked by isee1you 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
go ahead and come out it does not really matter i exept you and so should everyone else if they don't kik there asses
2006-10-31 03:15:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's really your decision... like everyone else here says (excluding any religious crackpots). If you think your friends will be fine with it because you're wise in making friends, then go for it. I personally hate it when someone has to hide their identity, and I DO want to tell everyone who is closeted to come out, but it doesn't work that way. Sadly, the world does not revolve around me. *cries* Sooo... there is always the possibility that someone might take it the wrong way or they are against homosexuality (because their minds have been warped by years of hetero porn and religious rhetoric) and will take action against you... which is a serious thing, so be selective with whom you tell. I'd think that you would start with your parents, but whatever. I mean, if you think they already suspect, then will it really matter THAT much if you just confirm it?
2006-10-30 10:35:24 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Only you can answer this question for yourself. Think about some of the worst things that could happen from coming out. If you think you can live with whatever consequences then do it at your own pace. Tell someone you really trust. Then tell someone else. When you are comfortable tell the biggest blab mouth you know.
Then you don't have to tell anyone else. :)
2006-10-30 10:18:16 · answer #3 · answered by pammy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason to put it out there..what would that accomplish unless you are hoping to pick up someone....no reason. Do your straight friends come up to you and say, "I 'm Straight?" No, I didn't think so. Let things be. Sometimes, too much info is not only unnecessary, but it can be dangerous. You never know who is going to react to the news in a negative way. Leave things as they are...You could well make your life a living hell if you go tell stuff that is no one's business. Good luck
2006-10-30 10:24:34 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Think about living an entire life telling lies about everything. Either living alone so nobody will suspect. Or having a partner and having to lie to your family....or isolate yourself from them.
If in the closet and in love you have to change the pronouns anytime you tell someone....or even if you and your partner just go to Wal Mart together you'd have to lie about who you were with.
Honesty is WAY easier and better.
2006-10-30 15:06:12 · answer #5 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well if you think everyone knows that you're gay, than there shouldn't be a problem right??? But than again, be sure what you think is right... But if I were you tell them... And honestly you'll find your true friends and family members there beside... And if they're not there beside you, than they were never your family nor were they your friends to begin with... They were just important people in your life that made you who you are today... But yeah tell them...
2006-10-30 10:17:22 · answer #6 · answered by keau 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
That is really a personal decision. Only you know if you will be lynched where you live or not. I am out to my friends and some family. I think it depends on your workplace if you want to be out there or not. I have found that it can create problems for you if you are openly gay at some workplaces. Just use common sense when deciding if its reasonable to be openly gay.
2006-10-30 10:26:16 · answer #7 · answered by bratty brat 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only you can answer that because only you know your life circumstances. But if you do decide to come out, make sure you have some support in place to help you. And good luck. Be proud.
2006-10-30 10:27:49 · answer #8 · answered by Isis 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've never understood the need to 'come out'. Why can't you just BE??? Why make a sweeping declaration as to what you do with your penis? Unless you're in the running to be Prime Minister of Australia and you want to legalize gay marriage, what does your private life matter?
2006-10-30 10:19:21 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 4⤊ 1⤋
Only tell those who are important to you. If they love you and are true friends it won't even matter, and they may already suspect it. I came out 2 weeks ago and everything has changed for the better.
2006-10-30 12:18:59 · answer #10 · answered by JR 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Personally, I would only tell those close to you. You will feel better when it's out in the open. Don't open yourself for ridicule by telling people who don't matter in your life.
Good luck with this, it's a tough one.
2006-10-30 11:59:48 · answer #11 · answered by me 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋