I don't want to be a bother to anyone, but there are some things that would really help me out. One of DH's friends has been living with us for a couple of months (he should be gone in 2-3 weeks), and he burns this candle that makes me really nauseated. Is it too much to ask (or have hubby ask) that he not burn it? I mean it is my house.... And tonight DH called from work and said that they want to order pizza - another smell that makes me sick. They made me feel really bad for asking that they not order it, but is it too much to ask that I not feel like I have to stay locked in the bedroom in order to avoid all the smells that they bring in but make me sick? I'm really frustrated. I don't want to be a kill joy or a burden but I don't want to suffer in silence either. Am I being unreasonable?
2006-10-30 09:49:41 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
i don't think your being unreasonable. your pregnant, your uncomfortable, your hormonal, he helped get u that way, he had better help make you feel better! I have found that compromise helps a lot. if they want pizza, tell them to go to a pizza parlor and eat and to pick up something for you on the way home. as for the candle thing, its your house honey, if it makes you sick then he should have enough consideration not to burn it.
I am pregnant with my second child at the moment and i cant tolerate the smell of raw fish or hamburger. so the nights that my husband wants those to eat he and our daughter go to a restaurant and get them and bring me home whatever I'm craving at the moment, usually taco bell! your not a burden or a kill joy, you are going through one of the most difficult and amazing phases of life, you are bringing another life into this world! you shouldn't have to suffer in silence. put your foot down and have a long talk with hubby and the person living with you. Good Luck and Congrats on the baby
2006-10-30 09:59:45 · answer #1 · answered by llllll_amanda_lllllll 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you are not being unreasonable!! When i was pregnant I had to live with 3 guys, and they all stopped smoking inside as soon as there was any talk of a baby. The guy with the candle should have more respect for you and his friends child. Maybe with things like the pizza, they could go out for it instead. I had to stay in my room when any meat or really most foods were being cooked, i couldnt handle any smells.
2006-10-30 10:00:24 · answer #2 · answered by zimba 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Congratulations on your pregnancy, With the pizza issue you could ask them to have it out side or you just go for a walk while they are eating, I was the same with my first pregnancy I couldn't stand much every smell made me sick so I would have to stay a certain distance while those smells were around, But with the candle tell him its not to burn it nicely as its not a nessiaty. This should pass so just be patient,
2006-10-30 11:27:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-21 00:33:28 · answer #4 · answered by schrum 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say no! I banned any and all purfumes from my office with my son! I couldnt even stand it! also I woluldnt let them have chinese foods wither....I did it in a nice way, I just let it be kown i was sick and made them aware of me throwing up and my agony and they were pleased to help in any way! I advise you to do the same, throw up in the hall bathroom and tell them you are going to bed that pizza and candles always makes you sick, more than likely they will know they are in YOUR house and help in any way!
PS im pregnant with my 2nd child 10 weeks along, my husband will order his hot wings ( BLAH) and he will put them in the back of the truck for me on the way home so I dont smell them! I LOVE MY HUBBY!
2006-10-30 09:56:19 · answer #5 · answered by crystald 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you are not being unreasonable. Your husband should be more understanding. Explain to him that this isn't psychological, it's truly a physical reaction that is beyond your control and that it's not forever. Don't provide him with an option either, there's nothing worse than suffering through it! If that doesn't work then throw up in front of him. LOL!
2006-10-30 09:57:11 · answer #6 · answered by 'tisJustMe 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just have ask for small things that would make you more comfortable and it IS your house and DH's friend is a guest, he should abide by your rules and since you are pregnant should be more in tune with your situation. And have your husband say something if you dont want to confront him.
2006-10-30 10:00:06 · answer #7 · answered by Abyssion 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask them if they could go out to the bar and have a few beers with their pizza becuase the smell of pizza grease makes you nauseous. Open communication with your husband, I'm sure with a little reasoning he'll understand.
2006-10-30 10:00:04 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its your house number one. They should respect that. Number two you are pregnant you should be made comfortable. I think pregnancy is the only time we really get to be selfish. Live it up girl and give all the demands you want. You are the one who has to carry the baby around they arent going to do it for you. The least they can do is wait on you hand and foot
2006-10-30 09:53:35 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO you arent being unreasonable , tell them straight, you are pregnant you and the baby come first.
2006-10-30 09:52:35 · answer #10 · answered by Lea 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋