So I know this woman whose husband is over in Iraq and she and I are pretty good friends. We got to talking about how lonely she is and how much she misses the physical intimacy with her husband. We talked about me filling in for him until he gets back, and then we go back to be just friends. Sort of a friend with benefits thing. Any thoughts on this. We both know that neither one of us could have a long term romantic relationship with the other, this is just about taking care of an unmet need. She is pretty good looking too, so it would definitely be an easy gig for me.
2006-10-30
09:49:31
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Trip S
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➔ Marriage & Divorce
Well I guess the overwhelming answer on this is that it is just wrong. I suspected as much. I am not sure she was serious anyway.
2006-10-30
12:01:11 ·
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You are both fools for entertaining the idea.
2006-10-30 14:22:23
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answered by Anonymous
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Don't do it. Sex changes people. Do you honestly think you can go back to be just friends after having sex with her? Also, and I don't know why I didn't say this first, but how would her husband feel about this? It is wrong. It's not a good arrangement. Think about this: What if her husband comes home early on leave, and he catches you? I think she needs to talk to her husband, and take care of her own needs like LOTS of other wives and girlfriends are doing.
2006-10-30 09:54:54
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answered by viva_bamm 2
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This is definitely wrong. The only way it could possibly work is if her husband is aware of the situation and is completely ok with it, which I doubt is the case. She is vulnerable and missing her husband, and you should not betray your friendship by taking advantage of her. I don't doubt that you're a nice guy, and that you're intentions are good, but I also detect that the other head (not the one on your shoulders) is in the driver's seat with respect to this situation. Please avoid this situation and do not go through with it. It will be next to impossible to "go back to being friends" after being close...you don't want to end a marriage.
2006-10-30 09:55:51
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answered by terryandadriana 2
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That is a tough question but the deal is that when you have sex with someone intiment feelings can start. And I know what its like to be lonely but still I think you are taking a chance both of you on getting hurt and hurting the man over seas.
2006-10-30 09:54:58
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answered by Mandy L 1
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I think that is totally wrong. I know she misses her husband but that doesn't give her the right to cheat on him. He is over there fighting for our country and his wife is here worring about sex. I think she should just wait it out and take care of it herself if she needs it that bad. She will feel guilty in the long run, (I would hope anyway)
2006-10-30 09:53:02
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answered by Ask Me 3
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I don't think that is a good idea at all, even though it might sound like one at the moment. Its only going to end in disaster for both of you. And how would you like it if you were in Iraq and your wife was sleeping with someone else?
2006-10-30 10:11:28
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answered by Bettie 1
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I think that it is completely wrong. It would be different if her husband were home and still didnt meet her needs but he is at war defending you. I think that you should not do it because you are messing this guys family up. Have some respect for our soldiers. btw this lady friend of yours has no morals what so ever her husband is providing for her and defending her so she needs some counseling
2006-10-30 10:06:22
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answered by iam_joann 2
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Sounds easy to get away with, but karma has a way of coming back around. When you find the one you love or marry then the same snot nose kid will come along and give it to your wife. Tempting as it is I wouldn't do it, look out for your future relationship.
2006-10-30 10:03:35
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answered by barbie2 3
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That's horrible. I hope that you will not be an accomplice for this garbage. Her husband is sleeping on the ground, and this is how the 2 of you would repay him???HOW MANY UNMET NEEDS DO YOU THINK HER HUSBAND HAS????
2006-10-30 09:54:18
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answered by Anonymous
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Its wrong and good arrangement for you.
Of course this is also way men don't like women to have too many male friends. There is always a snake among them.
If you really want to be a friends then tell her, what you would tell a male friend of yours who is interested in cheating on his wife. "If you are going to be a selfish dumb-*** go for it, but I'm going to laugh at you when it blows up in your face."
2006-10-30 11:22:30
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answered by snack_daddy10 6
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"in sickness and in health, for better or for worse, til death do us part"...........
there is no exception in these vows pertaining to "if your husband goes off to war and you are feeling a bit frisky"
Not to judge, but I feel really bad for the husband. And I hope you are a better person than that to sleep with another man's wife. How would you feel if you were the one that was away? She sounds like she is looking for an excuse to cheat, and if I were you I'd run like heck.
2006-10-30 09:54:39
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answered by Anonymous
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