I was n a relationship with my fiance for approx 1yr and a half. i've been knowing him since 1998. He is in prison and was soon to come home in december. He stop writing me about 3 months ago. I felt something was wrong so i did a little investigating myself. I found out he was sleeping around and had started a relationship with a female guard. Once at visitation he would not look or touch me. I later found out it was because the guard he was ******* was there watching him. I got up set and turned both them in. I did it only after i found out she had been keeping my letters i wrote him. He has been moved to the max unit and his date has been changed for him to come home. I have been there for this guy through thick and thin not only him but his family too, they all treated me like ****. His mom knew about the situation too. He wrote me the other day and called me all kinds of bitches and he said that he still have the guard ridin heavy by his side. he threw a lot of my past in my face
2006-10-30 09:32:46 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He sounds like a winner - you must be so bummed out , having lost a good upstanding man like that - he could have been the father of your kids - I am so sorry for your lose, maybe you could go back to prison and find another nice man
2006-10-30 09:39:07 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Don't throw your life away for this guy, he is trash. Even if he's been through thick and thin, he deserted you in the end. THis is not any way to treat someone you love. DOn't take it personal, in a way, he's just doing what he can to survive and get ahead...but even if it is at your expense.
You are too good for him. In a year or so, if you give yourself the gift to wake up and smeel the coffee, you will laugh over this. And most likely, you will be with a better man.
First though, you have to clean up your energy and see why you are attracting such a horrible situation. Google "Emotional Freedom Technique and Gary Craig" He has a free manual online. Also look into an affordable book on "The Sedona Method" to help release this obsession to pain.
2006-10-30 09:37:27 · answer #2 · answered by FeeFee le Mew 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow that is a lot to be going through...I can understand that you turned them in because you were upset and caught up in the heat of the moment...but to be honest that wasn't cool what you did...you know he's locked up and you made things worse for him in a sense...I'm not taking his side he was messed up for what he did...but at the same time you should have confronted him about the situation...the guard had some nerve though...I would have told her a** off lol...and plz girl blood is thicker than water...his family will never tell you that he's doing you wrong..learn never put anything past a man or his family...but what's done is done don't dwell on it...he got caught up out there and you did what you did...there's no taking it back...so it's over ...you have a clean slate...you'll find someone better...someone that won't have a criminal record..lol :)
2006-10-30 10:45:55 · answer #3 · answered by Dianna J 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Good for you, I would of done the same thing. You have nothing to feel bad about. This man wronged you after all youve done for him. He dont deserve you. You go on and find yourself someone who will appreciate you and is gonna take care of you. The relationship he has with the guard will probably not last. Youll see, youll be the one laughing at the end. Good Luck
2006-10-30 09:38:19 · answer #4 · answered by Baby boy blue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That sucks, you deserve better. Good for you for making a stand and turning them in. Yes, they will both get their karma. She is liking how it is now, but wait until he gets out - think she will want his broke @ss? You stuck by his side through a lot it sounds like, and for the right man this will mean a lot, you just need to learn from your ex what you don't want in a relationship. Sorry you have been hurt so bad, no one deserves to go through that.
2006-10-30 09:39:12 · answer #5 · answered by Carey L 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When he went to prison you should have left him then. And no you wasnt wrong for reporting the guard cause she has no rights in being in a relationship with a prisoner. And everybody reaps wat the sow. Just move on and find a guy who will not end up behind bars.
2006-10-30 09:44:20 · answer #6 · answered by baby_luv 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Where is your self-worth? You do not need to be with a 'thing' that treats you so poorly, cheats, lies and what else....that is just plain rude. It may be hard for you to get over, but that is the best thing!!!
Be glad he is gone, move and start fresh. Fix yourself up, hold your head up. You did NO wrong. You will attract much better and later he will hit his head for letting you go. What goes around, does come around. Love hurts, but you will get better.
2006-10-30 10:11:08 · answer #7 · answered by strong1 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know it's hard to realize right now, but the guy has done you a huge favor. Be done with him and move on. The faster the better! You've learned your lesson, now remember it. I haven't always learned and the same thing kept popping up. I am hoping I am done with losers and can get myself to realize and not to self-destruct! You do deserve better and you can rest easily knowing that KARMA is alive and doing well! Don't concern yourself with him though. Concern yourself with YOU. Treat yourself good...no one else will treat you as good as you treat yourself. God bless and good luck.
2006-10-30 09:51:22 · answer #8 · answered by honeybee4u2c 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hun who cares what he realizes he didnt care about you as he was giving the guard a ride for her money! Do you not believe you deserve something better, well God does Sugar call him Hes waiting to hear from you! Be strong and have faith this to shall pass!
2006-10-30 09:48:38 · answer #9 · answered by btsnpieces 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He will figure it out, but not now. Right now he's going thru something. When it passes he'll realize how few women really stick by a guys side especially guys in prison. By that time, you'll be long past him.
Good luck and don't lose faith in men ;)
Don't cast thy pearls unto swine...
2006-10-30 09:47:29 · answer #10 · answered by Big Marc 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋