i think im a 13 lesbian, i 've been molested?

Question

im 13 years old, but i belive im a lesbian.
i was molested by a girl two years ago.
but the weird thing is that i liked it.
i never told anyone and now i want to
live with her for the rest of my life.
what should i do?

Answer 1

How old was the girl? Was she another child or was she an adult? Either way, if you consider it MOLESTATION then you didn't want it to happen. You may feel confused now, but trust me, you don't want to spend your life with someone who will constantly do things to you that you don't want to happen.

P.S. If the girl was over 18 years old, report this to the police.

Answer 2

You may know this already, but there is a true scientific answer to your confusion: The Westermarck Effect, which makes it so people who grow up together in close proximity cannot become sexually aroused by each other, does not apply to the relationship between you and your sister. You both grew up separately, so that did not kick in. There have been countless cases of this type of thing all over the place, when people who are typically siblings but did not grow up in the same home fall in love and choose to have a relationship with each other. It's an already-established phenomenon that appears to be happening to you. In fact, there's a chance she feels the same way for you. Having said that what you're experiencing is in all truth normal, it still puts you in a tough position, especially since you don't like being gay, either. You can't force yourself to change your orientation or to fall out of love with someone (that often just makes the longing stronger). While your shame isn't warranted but understandable when seen by the reflection of society, you're in about the worst kind of forbidden love scenario possible. I can't help you with your own feelings. That's only something you can do, although I hope I help clarified why you can feel the way you do as something that happens very often. I mean, there are separated mothers and sons who have fallen in love, as well as fathers and daughters. It just happens sometimes. Plus, I mean, I've had the hots for my younger first cousin since like, ever, and for the same reason. I didn't meet her until she was 16. While it's not an identical relationship, it's the same type of effect.

Answer 3

Sexuality is Hard to label. Different people view love, sex, and relationships in different ways. Obviously, something special happened to you, and yet it is cause of some concern. The best advice I can give you is what you've already done. Ask Questions. Don't accept an answer just because your parents gave it to you, or a friend, or even me! (hahaha)..

You will have to face yourself every day, but only others when you need to. So what's truely important to you?

If you are unsure, maybe there is an answer your not thinking about. Did you ask the other how she feels? Do you know your families views? Maybe your friends might make jokes, but would they still support you if the new different?

I think you need not expect anything to last the rest of your life. Change is an essencial to life. Keep that knowledge when you think you have no choices. You always do...

Answer 4

If you were truly "molested", I would suggest getting as far as possible from the gilr who did it to you. She is not a healthy individual and may cause you harm, at least psychological and emotional harm. You may want to confide to a trusted friend or adult about the situation so you can talk it over and understand it.

Now, on the other hand, if the two of you sexually explored together and you found yourself enjoying it, that's a different thing. I would still say that you're only thirteen, and you still have time to settle into your sexual orientation as well as love life. You may say you want to be with her for the rest of your life, and it may very well happen, but give it time. You're young. You may be a lesbian, as well, but go ahead and think hard on the topic, away from that particular girl. Do you like/have crushes on only girls? Boys? What about in the past? These are better indicators of your sexuality than just one exciting experience.

What should you do? Figure out if you were molested- believe me, true molestation is a bad thing. Decide if the person who did this is bad for you or someone you should stay in contact with. Contemplate your sexuality (without having sex, of course). Cool off and slow down! The only thing you should do at 13 is go to school, play, do chores, and live life. You have time to develop a lifelong relationship with people and come out as whatever you may be (straight, gay, bisexual, etc.) once you've matured a bit.

Good luck!

Answer 5

Honey, what happened to you at the age of 11 was a CRIME. The person who did this is a criminal--NOT SOMEONE WHO LOVES YOU. You have been the victim of a crime just like a girl who is raped by a boy. No 11 year old is ready for sexual activity, whether boy or girl, no matter with whom. Women are capable of rape also.

The emotions and thoughts you describe are common with this sort of attack. It is a defense mechanism, something your subconscious puts together to help you deal with the traumatic event. "I survived it, it couldn't have been that bad, I must have enjoyed it, I enjoyed it, it's ok, so it wasn't a crime after all" etc.

The best thing you can do right now is to find someone--a counselor, a parent, a teacher, somebody you can trust, to confide in. I would really reccomend a rape-crisis center. Even if there was no actual "penetration" involved, this falls under the heading of "criminal molestation". Please consider pressing charges against the person who did this, especially if they are still pressuring you for sex. If not for your own protection, then think of how many other girls you can save from her sick, child-raping hands.

If the woman who did this is also a child, then please consider: she needs help also. Things like this don't develop in a vacuum. Chances are she is also being, or has been, molested and/or raped.

Get help.

Answer 6

Wait untill your hormones level out and your out of puberty and if your a lesbain thats great thats the way God made you. If you were molested you need to tell an adult who can help you deal with your feelings. Dont grow up too quick. Life is too short.

Answer 7

call the authorities or tell an adult you trust, about the molestation, not the lesbian thing! What she did was a crime, and you need to get help! Especially if she is molesting 11 year old girls.....

Answer 8

well you might want to seek counseling first to deal with what happened, then you should deal with how you feel and explore different options. I truly believe you need to experience life before you can say what you like. I mean how do you know you don't like cake unless you try it first. Good luck

Answer 9

First of all, talk to someone you can trust. Having desires about someone who hurt you like this is never healthy. You need healing and you need to get these feelings out in the open someplace.

Answer 10

If you have been molested you need to tell your parents.