Three months ago I got drunk with friends and cheated on my girlfriend of three years, immediately after telling her I was dumped and have been trying to repair the damages I've caused since. Presently I'm now talking to my exgirlfriend everyday, and eventually I will be given a second chance. However, I'm going to also have to give her parents a very sincere apology and ask for forgiveness for all the pain I've caused them as well. My question is if your daughter was cheated on by her boyfriend, and he sought forgiveness, would you allow him into your home again?
2006-10-30 08:51:57 · 34 answers · asked by ilovemyfiancekatie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
sorry dude, you will need the help of your girlfriend........
2006-10-30 08:54:33 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
For one if I were a parent I would not get into my child's affairs. I wouldn't care what they do. That being said if my daughter told me that her boyfriend cheated on her I would give her advice but if she still wanted to be with the guy that would be her decision and I would stay out of it. It would be a nice touch for the guy to apologize. Whether I would accept the guy into my home is another thing. But that has nothing to do with the guy cheating on my daughter that is because he is a male and I don't want any of them around my little girl. So I would apologize and not worry too much after that about what the parents say.
2006-10-30 09:02:24 · answer #2 · answered by Chrisy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Why are you apologizing to the parents? They have no business in this tangled relationship that you have caused.
If I was the girlfriend, I wouldn't give you a second chance.
I have been there and done that and hit hurts very bad. An important trust has been broken.
If I were the girl's parent(s), I would not forgive you for a second, but I would accept you if that was my daughter's unfortunate decision to take you back.
2006-10-30 08:56:52 · answer #3 · answered by JB 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You seem sincere in your regret, and considering you were inebriated at the time of the cheating AND you told your girlfriend afterwards, I would forgive you. Not unconditionally, but I would give you a second chance. You'll have to re-earn her trust as well as that of her parents, so do your best. Now, stay away from alcohol, okay? That stuff is not worth the trouble it causes. Best of luck to you.
2006-10-30 08:54:54 · answer #4 · answered by uctheatrescholar 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
As her parent this is not my decision-from what you have said if i was her parent i wouldn't like you very much
She is the most important thing and I would support her decision-even if i didn't agree with it. Who knows maybe you learned your lesson.
Who am i to judge you?
Having said that most parents (as normal as they can be) are not going to want to see you but will put on a happy face for their child. Don't be surprised if her dad pulls you off to the side and slyly threatens you. Anticipate it and then don't mess up again! If you feel the urge to cheat again break up with her first!
STD's are on the rise and AIDS is still sucking the life out of millions. Go Get Tested and prove to everyone that you are serious. Go back 6 months later and get retested.
God Bless You-we all mess up in different ways, remember that!
2006-10-30 08:58:38 · answer #5 · answered by msijg 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes I would. If someone asks for forgiveness and is truly sincere then I would grant that person forgiveness. Plus, I should trust my daughter's judgement. She was most hurt by the adultery and if she can forgive, there should be nothing holding me to a grudge.
2006-10-30 08:55:03 · answer #6 · answered by isitlove20 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no and I'd discourage my daughter from seeing her and I'd prolly think that you have some kind of drinking problem if you cant stop yourself form getting so drunk that you end up cheating on and hurting some on you love just because its something you wouldnt do sober doent make it ok if you really want thier forgiveness maybe not drinking would be something to show that you will never do it again
2006-10-30 08:57:21 · answer #7 · answered by <B> 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Only If The mom and she thinks that you are sincere. If they do Forgive you , You should try with every effort not to have this happen again. You can not keep breaking a girl's heart. It hurts too bad.I know ---------been there and done that.
2006-10-30 09:14:06 · answer #8 · answered by Sugar 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
NO i would not give u another chance because in this way it is like teaching my daughter that she can tolerate such a behaviour and to u that there are no consequences for your actions. I would not, and even if my daughter finally chose to be with u i would respect it but wouldnt talk to u :) byeeeeeee
2006-10-30 08:56:52 · answer #9 · answered by kourtina1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW are you going to get in bed with the parents again? I don't get it if not. Why do you need their support for anything? I think you like the family more than the daughter. Good luck on that!
2006-10-30 08:54:12 · answer #10 · answered by Karrien Sim Peters 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would give the guy another chance, only if my little girl told us (The Parents) that she really wanted that. Other wise no way because why are we going to allow this low life cheating sack of """""" into our home. Hopefully this helps.
2006-10-30 08:57:46 · answer #11 · answered by angels 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋