i think they may get a dioive and want me to choos who to live with i carn't casue then it means i love one more then the other what do i don't want them to get a divioce then been together for 20 odd years
2006-10-30 08:50:26 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There is nothing you can do about it so, all i will advise you to do is to put those things behind you and get on with your life. Orphans do make it big in life so cheer up girl!
2006-10-30 08:57:25 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
That is very sad for you. Just because you choose to live with one parent, does not mean you love the other parent less. You will be 18 soon and then maybe you can get your own place and won't have to choose. In the mean time, maybe just tell your parents, (if they are giving you the choice) that you don't want to move. Which ever parent is staying in the house you currently live in, then stay there with them. You could also go to the house that is a healthier enviroment, if you can see that. Too bad they don't wait to do this until you are an adult.
Sorry this had to happen to you. Learn as much as you can from this situation so that you don't make the same mistakes that your parents did.
2006-10-30 17:12:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sweetie,
I know it is never easy to see your parents part.. But it is not the end of the world.. Sometimes people just drift a part and getting a divorce is the answer... It is better for them to part and be friends for your sake, then to be together and be miserable with each other....
Always remember that they are both and always will be your parents and I'm sure they will always make it a point to be there for you, no matter what....
Sit them both down and let them know how you feel. You are old enough to chose who you want to be with. Just let them know you love them both, but you also don't want to be pressured in making decisions.....
Good Luck and God Bless!
2006-10-30 17:04:17 · answer #3 · answered by Torres 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sit down with both of them and explain how important it is for you to e in both of their lives. Tell them you need them to share custody for one more year, until you are old enough to go back and forth by yourself. Divorce is hard and it won't be easy, but the best way to prevent it is to not provoke it. Don't tell your mom things about your Dad that you know will get him in trouble, and visa versa. Also don't ask mom and then when she says no ask Dad. I know it will be hard cuz teenagers always do that, but think before you speak. This situation is sensitive, and you have to approach it carefully.I your parents still don't understand, try to get in contact with the court system with a counselor, and explain your situation and your feelings, but don't act without reason. Make sure they are getting a divorce, and make sure they are planning on having a custody battle. Good luck with everything. My prayers are with you.
2006-10-30 17:01:06 · answer #4 · answered by someone 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
same thing happened to me last year and well it was happening through out the years since i was about 6 and im 16 now ive gotten use to the fact that he was never really around and now the rest of the family is way better off we moved live in a way better place and i have everything i could posably want i still see my dad talk to him over the phone now and then but for some weird reson i feel as though nothing changed because its not like im missing out on something after all i never had it i never had him there so i dont miss him as much even though i still see him and he does pay attention to us more now that hes gone...but for you stick with your mom you can visit your dad anytime but your moms the one who gave birth to you
2006-10-30 16:57:00 · answer #5 · answered by gigi 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
listen sweety,your parents are getting a divorce from each other not you.. Im sure you guys can work this out.. and anyways sweety you are getting to be a young woman now.. you can choose to live by your self if this bothers you this much.. your daddy loves you all you have to do is learn to accept that he is a single man now and they made that desicion together... you wouldnt want them to stay together and be miserable... You want your parents to be happy...and they will be if they are not fighting all the time.. you accept it and you all can still be a family.. try some counseling hon... and do cry for crying its cure for the soul in time you will heal and everything will be fine.. smile.. good luck.
2006-10-30 17:01:01 · answer #6 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It might be healthier for everyone. Be brave and try and support both your parents make sure they know you love them both. I used to spend a week with my mum and then a week with my dad,it took some adjusting at first but then it just became normal. Be strong your old enough to look after yourself. Talk to your friends and look for support off them as your parents may be too upset to understand the effects on you, it will be allright in time, chin up your strong x
2006-10-30 16:56:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes kids see more of their dads when they are visiting them rather than living with them. It is hard, but hang in there, it will all work out. Just remember it has NOTHING to do with you. Your parents are divorcing one another but they still will be your parents. They may even be happier apart. Many couples are.
2006-10-30 17:09:13 · answer #8 · answered by Bev 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
All you need to remember is that both your parents love you very much no matter which one you live with and yes it will be hard but life is.
2006-10-30 16:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Please understand that this is not about or because of you. However you will be affected by your parents decisions and behavior. You might want to seek guidance from a trusted advisor in your school or church. Good luck and God bless you.
2006-10-30 16:57:41 · answer #10 · answered by SKYDOGSLIM 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋