My GF is not what you woudl call an "active" person. It has been 3 years since out daughter was born, and she still has a little baby weight. I am fairly active, and am starting to work out more. I want her to join me, both because it would be good for her and so we can do something together. She really doesn't want to, because she isn't really into excersise.
How can I get her to partticipate with me without saying "hey, you're gettign fat"?
2006-10-30 08:46:36 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't do it. It's a no-win situation
2006-10-30 08:55:49 · answer #1 · answered by Bill D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm try doing something that interest her like taking a walk with the baby. Buy one of those nifty jogging strollers and you can all go out together, I know the weather is changing but you can get a weather shield for the stroller and wrap the baby in blankets on top of the snow suit. Maybe get a DVD of an exercise tape one you can all do ..well the baby can try to keep up and it will be fun too. Don't hurt her feelings, she is still the same loving woman she was when you helped her get pregnant.
~Good Luck~
2006-10-30 14:01:52 · answer #2 · answered by vtlovie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Excercise is fun when there are two people start having her join you. Can you start cooking and change the menu for you both. Make it fun and exciting. Help her by just getting her to walk and talk with you. Plan outside activities on the weekends instead of staying indoors. 3 years the baby is old enough to leave with a sitter while you two get the weight off help her and encourage her to try new ideas with you. Good luck.
2006-10-30 08:59:20 · answer #3 · answered by little3902 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Treating people the way you want to be treated is a good start. If she's struggling to lose the baby fat. She is most likely aware of her weight issues. Without being pushy, you can coax her into walks, changing eating habits. The worse thing you can do is make her feel more insecure about herself and your relationship.
Having a three year old doesn't leave you with a lot of energy to do anything for yourself. Take her dancing, find out what her interest are and go with them. Good luck
2006-10-30 08:52:47 · answer #4 · answered by Balou 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know. If it was me, I'd want my boyfriend to tell me. I am very active, too ,and work out at least 4 times a week. He, on the other hand, is not at all active and eats junk all the time. So, while I feel your pain, I am in the same situation you are. Maybe we'll both find some good advice.
2006-10-30 08:54:51 · answer #5 · answered by Lotus 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would offer to go to the park. Try and offer her more exercise that involves your daughter as well put her in the stroller and walk the park the mall there are several things that you can do together as a family all three of you. See if she is interested in taking a mommy and me class where they exercise with the kids at the same time maybe she would be interested in something more like that that is what my daughter and I do and it also is teaching my daughter had to exercise at a young age.
2006-10-30 08:52:00 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make her favorite chair weak so that the next time she sits in it, it collapses... Just kidding... Inactivity is a habit and the longer she is inactive the harder the habit will be to break. Perhaps she will want to go dancing with you, or walking with your daughter. If worse comes to worse, you may have to tell her that you are getting concerned with her weight and her lack of desire to do anything about it. Sometimes it is tough love that we have to use. Ask her if she cares if you work out with Gretchen or Candy or Tracy the human pretzel. Maybe if she thinks you are looking for a workout partner and the names that come up are female names, that might prompt her to get up and got moving. That is dangerous though, she may take you serious... Good luck, it is a hard one to deal with...
2006-10-30 09:08:20 · answer #7 · answered by Suthern R 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something that isn't obvious excercise, something fun. Like taking your daugther for a walk through the park, or kayaking or take up an active hobby. Don't ever ever ever say 'you are getting fat' because I think you know what would happen if you did. ****Perhaps say that you are kind of worried about yourself and how you are looking and ask if she wouldn't mind being active with you because you need the support....again find an activity that is fun and you can forget that it's excercise.
2006-10-30 08:51:27 · answer #8 · answered by sweet200318 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Open the suggestion to her more subtle. Say "I really want to spend some alone time with you, how about you and I go for a run?" That way she sees it is something you enjoy doing and she can share it with you. But suggest later on or another day the two of you do something she enjoys.
2006-10-30 08:50:12 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Amanda♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find something to do with her that doesn't involve going to the gym. Maybe suggest you all take a dance class together. That way she thinks that you just want to do something with and at the same time she will get her body moving.
2006-10-30 08:59:05 · answer #10 · answered by bttrfly0724 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How much is "a little baby weight"? It is her body and if she is comfortable with it, it is not any of your business. Invite her to exersise with you, but just because you like to work out doesn't mean that she has too. Having a baby changes a woman's body.
2006-10-30 08:51:42 · answer #11 · answered by Dennly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋