my fiance is very funny, active, loving, and generous with me. He is the sweetest, He loves children and he could not be more in love with me... But its wierd because his father is not like that at all... He's very strict, does not show emotions, and i feel hes kind of cold hearted...... Is that what my fiance will become after years of being married? i fear that because i want him to remain like this always!!!
2006-10-30 08:34:29 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Look..first of all I hardly doubt your fiancee will eventually turn into his father..that RARELY happens.I know a lot of men who are nothing like their dads...my husband being one of them.Him and his dad have nothing in common.As for your fiancee changing...people dont change.NOT REALLY anyway.Situations change..we grow up,get married,have kids..all those things are bound to influence your character and immensly I would say.Work,anxiety,bills,stress,minor problems..major problems..how can all that not change us a little?As long as it doesnt suck us in,we remain the same...just with more problems!As a couple its important that you understand each other,are there for one another and are willing to make certain sacrifices for one another...all that with love and good intentions and it'll all be fine!Stop worrying about what your fiancee might turn into and just appreciate him for who he is right now!Take care.
2006-10-30 08:47:08 · answer #1 · answered by firefly 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmmm, my husband used to buy me flowers and take me to see broadway shows all the time. In the three years since we've been married, he's sent me flowers once. But, he's still the same wonderful guy that he was when we were dating. Spend enough time with a person and you will find out if they are sincere or putting on a front for you. I think you already know the answer, sounds like you've also got a wonderful guy. Good luck and congratulations!
2006-10-30 08:40:11 · answer #2 · answered by wjordanfam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
before i married my ex, he treated me like a queen, made me feel important and respected. it was as if i could talk to him about anything at all, the week i married him he began to change, and become controlling and mean.after 10 years i finally told him how hurt i was that i was always put last, and he responded not the way i expected, i really believed it would help us, but instead he asked for a divorce no reasons, no suggestion of therapy, just he was gone, i later learned he had been seeing someone for a long time.they often change,some for the best some for the worst, hopefully your will be a long happy marriage.
2006-10-30 14:21:21 · answer #3 · answered by jude 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Almost everything will change after you get married. Especially if you combine finances. Marriage is not ALL about being loving and sweet and full of emotion...its about commitment. A lot of people get divorces today because they claim they "just don't get along", or they "fight too much". But all that is completely normal. If you don't argue then your not making progress. If anyone tells you otherwise, then they are lying to you.
2006-10-30 08:47:36 · answer #4 · answered by DHWJulie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some things have changed since my husband and I have got married but other than that not alot has changed. He still takes me out on dates we still have the same relationship as we did when we were dating Would not change it for the world and we have been married five years and we have four children together.
2006-10-30 08:45:04 · answer #5 · answered by Daigsmommy 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My husband it still sweet, kind and loving and the best father in the world after 8 years!
2006-10-30 08:37:24 · answer #6 · answered by carasmom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't worry...He will never change into that! He is probably the way he is because he made it a point to not end up like his dad. But...if he was like his dad, it isn't something that he could hide, so you are in the clear!! He must take after his mom!! Congrats on landing such a sweet one...some of us got lucky...=0)
2006-10-30 08:37:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think everyone changes, even you will. it is horrible. my husband always says to me I want the woman I married. But he is so different now as well. We used to have pet names and we were"oh so grown up". everyone envied me because of the way he used to treat me. now, I have people asking me if things are still working out. it just depends on how things go and the choices you make. but make sure you know, you will change somehow, just make it for the better. dont stop talking to eachother. it is all you will have when everything else is gone :)
2006-10-30 08:38:57 · answer #8 · answered by Hurray for the ANGELS! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Funny.......yes it will most likely remain the same.
Active.......maybe no because he will grow old and energy level will fall.
Loving.......very likely he will be less loving. Marriage might make him take you for granted.
Generous......it depends on his financial capacity.
Loves children......it doesn't mean he will help you with the children.
In love with you.........all couples marry because they are in love; but they still cheat if you are unlucky to marry one.
2006-10-30 21:28:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
That describes my father too.
I'm was a jokester before I got married and I'm still a jokester.
My wife even says I'm funnier now.
2006-10-30 08:47:28 · answer #10 · answered by snack_daddy10 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋